“To be authentic, we must cultivate the courage to be imperfect and vulnerable. We have to believe that we are fundamentally worthy of love and acceptance, just as we are. I’ve learned that there is no better way to invite more grace, gratitude, and joy into our lives.” -Brene Brown
Being Authentic is simply being genuine. Bringing your whole self to the table. This includes your personality, your quirks, your positives, your negatives, everything that truly makes you…. you. People can tell when you aren’t being true to yourself and will react accordingly. Wondering if you’re being authentic? Curious if you embrace all aspects of who you are? These components are important to be your genuine, authentic self.
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Know what you want and go for it
1. Know Yourself
Who are you? What do you stand for? What are your goals? What are your passions? What are your hobbies? Do you know what you love? Do you know what you hate? Work through these questions and take a moment to reflect on yourself. Before you can bring your whole self to the table, you have to spend time getting to know who you are. It’s the same concept that we hear over and over again, only applied to this thought. “If you’re on a plane, you must first put your oxygen mask on before you can put on anyone else’s.” In order to show up at your greatest, you must first find the greatness in yourself and within all aspects that make you… you.
2. Embrace Yourself
Once you have a better idea of who you are. Own it. **Cue Mulan singing true to your heart.**
I honestly can’t say that enough. People are attracted to those who embody self-confidence. Find love for your authentic self and embrace every bit. If you don’t love who you are, how do you expect others to love you? If you don’t value what you bring to the table, how do you expect anyone else to? Own your actions, your thoughts, and your words. Embrace who you are and continue to build upon you.
3. Stop Overthinking
I used to be the champion of overthinking. Sometimes I still am. The problem is, overthinking leads to a lot of inactivity and questioning of my authentic self. So, I encourage you, don’t do it. If you also have a special awards case dedicated to the extra thoughts that have always plagued your mind, it’s time to join me in retiring from that particular competition. When you are authentic and genuine, you know that what you are sharing is of value. Overthinking creates space that is unproductive more times than not.
4. Set Boundaries
When you know who you are and what you stand for, you don’t agree to everything and you definitely don’t say, “yes” to things you actually wouldn’t like to do. Within your newfound authentic self, set boundaries that align with your values, beliefs, mission, and goals. There is a fine line between pushing yourself outside of your comfort zone and agreeing to do things that aren’t aligned with who you are and what you want. Do yourself a favor and respect your time and energy.
5. Know what you want and GO FOR IT!
Once you’ve identified all of the pieces to your puzzle, you should start seeing the picture of you clearer and clearer. As you lay each piece down, revealing you as the final product, hold onto it. Take your authentic self with you everywhere you go in any and all situations. Once you know who you are, you can really identify what you want. When you know what you want… go for it. People will be attracted to you and all the special things that you bring with you.