Should I Go Back To My Abusive Boyfriend?
Okay ladies and gentlemen,today we have a very big but a simple question to answer. A very good friend of ours has just posted a life threatening issue on her relationship to us and needs our urgent sincere help. She said she just got dumped by her Abusive Boyfriend and she loves him and still wants him back. 'What should I do?' Should I Go Back To My Abusive Boyfriend? Click to read this: Why Do Some People Love Abusive Boyfriends?
You see,the point here is that she is the one who wants her abusive boyfriend back! There is no indication that shows the man wants her back in his life. There is also no indication that the boyfriend loves her from the post. She is the one who loves him so much and wants him back!
Alright,first and foremost,we want to say that in relationships,two hearts and two minds have to get involved together before it can work. This is when love can be like fire that when lit it continues to burn. But you see,this can't be in your case because,you both are like water and fire!
It can't work! You are firing the relationship making it to work,but he is all there pouring water to the fire and quenching it.
He is abusive,and you love him and also want him back? I don't understand. I don't understand the kind of thing you really want for yourself. Women want love!They go for men who love and cherish them and here you are wanting a man who beats you up and rains abuses on you like seriously?
I think the problem with you is that you love to a fault. But you see,relationship is not an agape love where you have to continue loving your brother no matter what! The only kind of love that exists and that is permitted in boyfriend and girlfriend relationships is Ero love . It has to be really sweet and romantic otherwise you are not in a relationship! Click here to read more: What It Means To Be In Love.
Another problem with you is that you love a man who does not respect or have any feelings for you. Girl why? Is it that you feel you are worth nothing? You don't love yourself? Then you can't even love another.
Yes you love him and you have committed no crime in doing so. But understand that he does not love you and that is the problem here. That love my dear does not and can never make sense. A lady like you who loves selflessly deserves rich and better love and not abusiveness.
You think he is your life and you will die if you don't end up with him right? No he is not and you won't die without him! We have all been there my dear friend. At first when I wasn't feeling I was in a relationship with a man I was the one who begged to leave even when I loved him so much that I most times lost my appetite had sleepless nights thinking about him. We were in the heart of each other that when it was rough for me,he felt it and would call me to know if I was okay. Yet I left him and he sobbed. Later we were back together again and it didn't take time and he was the one who left this time . I sobbed and felt so bad that I thought I would never find another man who would love me as he did.
But you know what? After sometime I talked to myself and said '' I am a beautiful girl,strong and talented. He doesn't love me as I thought and that was why he left! I'm going to love myself and pursue that great woman I ever wanted to be. A life toucher, a motivational speaker,and an inspiration to the world! Before I knew it,he was gradually leaving my life and I was enjoying my new found life. I stopped paying attention to my memories of him and finally it dropped to almost nothing. That was when I believed that one is special only when you make one a special person in your life! Click here to read more:
How Much Should We Do For Boyfriends?
He abuses you in many ways and that is killing!What are you missing in this man that you want him back so badly? If this abusive boyfriend of yours is the one begging to be back and you still love him,I would have advised you give him a chance to make up with you and give him the opportunity to become a changed person. You know why? Because,people change! Circumstances can make a good man turn wild one night until he comes back to his right senses. Good husbands today can turn against their beautiful and most cherished wives tomorrow!
But your case here is different. You are the only one in that relationship who loves whereas it takes two to tango! To keep the fire burning in a relationship,two parties have to keep firing on both sides and in that case,the love becomes endless.
My dear lady,you see that abusive man,don't go back to him! Not because he is abusive but because he doesn't love you ! You don't know how fortunate you have been that he is out of your life yes you are so so fortunate my dear. Abusiveness is no enjoyment and smiling and suffering is no life!
Be patient. Have a good waiting attitude towards life. Shun what is bad and Love only a grateful heart!!!