The circle of life we Fight, we make up, and we fight again. It’s hard for me to not have issues over something. In my mind there will always be a hypothetical problem. I know you guys didn’t think my life was an Airport for nothing. I am one of those people that find something to worry, think, and concentrate on. My husband is the opposite. He’s the kind of guy that’s mostly happy, and easy going almost all the time. On top of that he rarely let anything deter him from the things he’s focus on. Except me.
Okay, okay you guy I maybe a little unprepared or overwhelm for my Relationship but what the hell that never stop anyone before. In order for me to get my mind together I have to figure things out. In order for me to figure thing out I have to write everything down. Writing everything down led to the creation of this blog. Now you see the concept and steps to a happier me. If this Blog help you that good, if it give you an insight into me so we can connect that’s even better. I really enjoy writing so I will be happy for that alone but the mean reason I do this is so I can help myself understand our relationship.
My husband and I can never seem to have that easy going relationship. I mean the kind of relationship that’s Instagram ready, Facebook control, and Snapchat happy. Why is that? There are moments in my relationship I would like to mentally capture on social media. The highlight that make others feel the moment or be a little jealousy. Lol which ever one comes first. Just kidding I’m just playing on the Jealousy part and half serious on the feeling the moment part. Don’t get me wrong we go out and we have fun. And I do have moments capture on social media. It just some of those moments seem stage as if I’m performing.
It’s moments that right before we go out, right before we meet friends, right before we got married that we’re fighting. I like a good fight like anyone else but in my mind something is wrong. I can clue you guys in on the fights they’re are mostly misunderstandings because of cultural differences. Is normal to argue over what we’ll eat when no one care between the two of us? Is it normal to fight over things we both agree on agreeing for difference reasons? Is it normal to disagree on thing that we over heard for someone else? And the list get more petty when it come to the use of certain words.
We both don’t like to argue and talking about things seem to always lead in to an argument. It wasn’t until my husband told me he was tired of arguing and I assumed he wanted a divorce. Which led into him walking away from me and me getting mad at him. I realize that every other time in our relationship he had never walk away and neither one of us was ever mad. We were just disagreeing and life was still the same.
After that episode we both realize what it would take to build a better communication system. On top of that we now understand that’s it’s more to love then just to love. Respect, sacrifice and learning the true issues can help us make our relationship better. We still argue but the make up is long in between the fights. Now if I could just get my husband to go to couple counseling with some crazy people I met maybe not. Oh well until next time.