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#BTBYC Date night reveal?

As I think I mentioned in an earlier posting, I am Newly single. I had been with my ex-partner for nearly 7 years. Prior to this I always found the thought of being rejected because I wore wigs or weave used to make me feel sick. I'd always heard stories about people getting crap from a partner for wearing faux hair and I had overheard men and women say how much they preferred a "natural beauty" , like it was to be used as a judgement of them being "fake" and "a lie", as if it makes them ugly or less pretty.

With my newly found single status, I have been back on the dating scene and it has been a whirlwind! *coughs&clearsthroat* That aside, I have been on a few dates and the thought has gone through my mind about how I'll broach the fact that I do wear wigs and that I do look completely different with my natural hair.

For a part of me, I feel like up until the point where I tell them this, I am a bit of a fraud. Is that bad? I feel like they will have only seen one side of me, when, in actual fact, there are many sides to me, and my hair doesn't define me. However, in today's society of idealistic, unattainable and unrealistic beauty ideals, I may be faced with a guy who fits me in every way but sees me as a fraud or less attractive with dramatically different hair.


Hair by Little Mix

I know it sounds petty to a lot of people, but it makes me anxious. Most of us would love to end up with a partner who loves every single part of them. I don't want to feel like I am hiding anything from anyone that I care about or have feelings for.

I have suffered with self esteem issues for as long as I can remember, which does mean that I struggle with feelings of worthlessness. I am hoping that through this blog and company, I will empower myself to feel confident enough to be comfortable enough to be in any of my skins and not be phased by the judgement of others. And if a person I have started dating (or anyone else!)doesn't like any of my skins, then it simply wasn't meant to be, you move on! And if through all this I can take one person with me on this confidence boosting, self discovery journey then that would make the journey worthwhile! ;-)

Yours,
Talissa -x-



This post first appeared on Being The Beautiful I Choose, please read the originial post: here

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