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Lack of Self Improvement
Some good girls don’t improve themselves. The message of being a ‘virtuous woman’ has robbed some good girls of intelligence. They have specific topics they talk about and respond to. When you go to a gathering of some good girls, you will hardly find them discussing highly intellectual stuff. Engage some of them in discussions on politics, finance, business, and you will find that they are mostly ignorant in some of these areas. But when it comes to discussions on how to be consistent in your prayer and word life, or becoming a virtuous woman, they are good. No man wants a dull lady in his life.
Packaging Sense
In a bid to be "spiritual", some good girls lose their femininity. It is good to engage in spiritual activities to grow in God, but when those activities begin to take away the feminine touch from a lady and makes her look like a man, it is not good. No man wants to marry another man. Even a Pastor wants a lady with her femininity alive; nice makeup, good shape, sweet smell, nice hairdo, cool dress sense, etc. Don't you see their wives? Some good girls fail to keep their femininity alive. They’ve been deceived by the "character is all that matters" saying, which is not entirely true. In most cases, it is beauty first before Character. No matter how it is re-echoed that people should not judge books by their cover that is the exact thing that happens. Books will always be judged by their covers. When I walk into a bookstore, the packaging of a book determines to a great extent whether or not I will proceed to check the content of the book. The beauty of the clothes on a mannequin standing outside a boutique is what attracts people to see what is inside the boutique. The cloth sellers place it
outside so that their potential customers can have an idea of what is inside the boutique. The container of a product is just as important as the content. Men naturally are driven by what they see. A ‘bad’ girl will know the right things to do in order to get a man to notice her, and keep him glued to her. She will make sure she keeps being dynamic until she gets what she wants. After getting the man, she still won’t let her guards down. She’ll try as much as possible to be what that man wants and needs.
A ‘good girl’ on the other hand will most likely not do any of these probably because her beauty is on the inside. That was on a lighter note. Many good girls don’t have Packaging Sense. If only they knew those good men are drawn by what they see too. And this has nothing to do with nudity. No matter how exceptional a lady’s character may be, it will have to be
‘marketed’ in a beautifully and properly packaged container for most men to see. It is beauty first before character. Even Jesus was first of all attracted by the leaves on the Fig Tree in Mark 11. The Bible recorded that Jesus was hungry (so he was in search of something). The next thing that happened was that He ‘noticed’ a fig tree afar off having leaves. He was attracted by the leaves he saw on the fig tree. And then he came to see if he might find anything on it. Ever wondered why three to four guys keep seeing visions concerning the beautiful sister in the church that packages herself well while the others are still trusting God for life partners? Most good girls lack packaging sense and think the character will cover for it. It does not work that way.
Overfamiliarity
Many good girls don’t know that a close male friend could be a potential husband. Many often say they can’t marry their friends. "He’s just a friend," they say. Who else should be a partner if not a friend turned lover? There are many good girls with good male friends in their lives but they prefer to keep them in the 'friend zone' even when it’s obvious that these guys like them. They ‘friend-zone’ these guys and keep praying that God sends them ‘Mr
Right’. And while they are praying to God to send their life partners to them, He is waiting for them to recognize the one He positioned in their lives disguised as friends.
Source: Excerpt from NELSON ASUEN book Why Good Girls Remain Single
