As we all know life is full of experiences. When you are young, life is full of care-free mistakes. As you get older those mistakes become lessons that you hope to one day share with someone younger. Here are a few words of advice from someone who is less than 2 months away from entering a whole new decade in life.

1. Don’t waste time being afraid: go for that job that you’re certain you’re not gonna get. What’s the worse that can happen? You are rejected, but you gain interview experience. Self-doubt is a waste of time.

2. Know your worth. This applies to every aspect of life, work and relationships; know your worth and never sell yourself short. No job or romance is more important than your self respect. Also, charge for any unique skills/services that you can offer.

3. Live for TODAY. Yes, it is important to plan for the future, but don’t forget to LIVE! Make sure that you have no regrets about what you should have done. Commit to doing more exciting things.

4. Don’t be afraid to walk away. I left a company I worked with for years to protect my growing desires. Even though this was a big risk, it was the best decision I ever made. NOTHING is more important than your happiness.

5. Most 20 somethings feel that they are underachieving. This is normal – especially in today’s time. Don’t feel bad if you are still living at home and cannot afford to rent/buy. Work hard and it will come.

6. Learn to enjoy your own company. Your 20’s can be a lonely time as your social sphere narrows, due to employment, finances and exhaustion. Use this time to find out more about yourself and do the things that you enjoy. There is something liberating about eating at a restaurant alone.

7. In love, nobody owes you anything. Even if they made a promise, they are their own person. Everybody has the right to change their mind and to leave a situation which is not beneficial for them. This is hurtful and hard to accept, but it is the truth.

8. People will disappoint you, but most of the time, it’s not about you. Everybody has their own demons and traumas that make them behave in certain ways. If somebody disrespects you, assert your boundaries and keep it moving. Also, examine if there was anything you could have done to avoid the situation. But DO NOT let it eat away at you.

9. Be respectful, don’t gossip or overshare. I am still working on this one. It is really difficult to be kind and positive in a world full of negative people. However, your attitude will influence how you are being perceived. If you are unkind, people will laugh at your jokes but they will never trust you. They will never trust you not to treat them as you treat other people. Remove yourself from toxic people, and only share negativity (sadness/anger/depression) with a therapist and one other person that you trust. If you overshare negative feelings, you may be stereotyped as being full of drama. Furthermore, people will want you to stay in a negative place because it’s entertaining and makes them feel better about their own lives. Just don’t do it.

10. You cannot win every battle. Within conflict, it is tempting to try to force others to agree with your perspective. However, most people are set in their ways, and find it difficult to change their views and behaviors. This is especially important when dealing with toxic family members. You may never get the apology and empathy that you seek, so it is important to accept that every battle cannot be won, and gain validation internally, rather than externally.

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