My Mother used to say,
"Never judge a man until you've Walked a mile in his shoes"
If you have never gone through a divorce, been a stepmother, lost a child, lost a spouse, lost your job, lost a close pet, lost everything in a fire, been in a car accident, and had any host of other issues don't say "He/She should do this or that." You do not know what you would do in a situation if you've not walked there before, and even then, every case is different.
The next time you want to say, "If I was ......, I'd do ..... " Stop and keep quiet and don't show your ignorance.
You don't know what you would do until it happens to you. We should grow with every experience.
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