Have you ever dug your heels in the ground and said no to either an opportunity standing in front of you or the need to make a difficult decision?  Resistance.  It comes easy to some of us.

A dance teacher once came up behind me and firmly pushed my back and said, “Move forward!”  I was resisting, hesitating and it was ruining the dance.

Why was I hesitating?  Because I was afraid of doing it wrong. I was comparing myself to others. I was painting a picture of failure in my head that would happen if I dared to “move forward,” which was what the next dance step required.  

I was totally impatient with myself and the learning process. If I can’t shine and look like a professional I won’t do it. That is what was operating underneath my resistance – fear.

Life is our teacher and if we just keep breathing we can learn our lessons and move forward. I eventually found my freedom from the destructive feelings of less than/more than.  I stopped comparing myself to others. I began to accept my limitations and abilities as well as others – without judgment. 

The greatest lesson for me has been to stop focusing on the result. I now give my time, care and attention to the details of each moment. To the need of each moment.

My priority list has gradually shifted.  Patience has become the natural outcome and the panic mode has disintegrated. 

However, the ultimate outcome of overcoming resistance, is the courage it gives us to move forward.

Our leaders cannot afford to stay trapped in their own web of hesitation. It’s critical that they remove the underlying fear that’s holding them back.

With that accomplished, they will lead with the inner security and strength of mind that is vital to “moving forward” through an extremely challenging and disruptive time in history. 

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“To offer no resistance to life
is to be in a state of grace, ease and lightness.”
~Eckhart Tolle

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