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Why smart guys do not get laid

Yes girls do like smart guys, they like to talk to them, not have sex with them. Smart geeky guys do not get laid. And in this article I will explain you reasons why that is.
Have you ever asked yourself why bartenders get laid so much? Have you ever seen those low class street guys dating hot girls? What the hell is with that? Answers are more than obvious.

To be good with girls, you need 3 things: Emotional Intelligence, Social intelligence and solid levels of IQ.

1) Emotional Intelligence

– EQ

This is crucial for being good with girls. Having a good level of emotional intelligence will allow you to know how they feel, predict their emotional responses, know what she wants to hear.
What emotional intelligence actually does it allows you to see things from different angles, from different perspective, you can see how you look in her eyes or eyes of her friends.  You can see how world or problems look from different perspective.

Just ask yourself:
how good are you at can you seeing things from different perspective?
That will tell you little bit about how good your emotional intelligence is.

Emotional Intelligence is something you develop in your childhood in first 10 years of your life.

If you had brothers, sisters, childhood with lots of friends, and people then you should have a good levels of your emotional intelligence. Single kids or kids who didn’t went to kindergarten or were not around kids didn’t had opportunity to develop it.

But still if you didn’t develop it in a childhood, it is possible to work and develop your emotional intelligence during a life time. Hang out with people as much as you can, make friends from circles outside of your lifestyle. Talk to as many different people coming from different background. Try to understand them and their problems. Socialize as much as possible.

2) Social Intelligence – SQ

Social intelligence is another element you have to have to be good with girls. Why?
We live in a modern society, this is not a cavemen game anymore, and you cannot just take a girl to your cave and keep her there without anybody seeing you. She is judged by people

regarding who she is and what is she doing. You are being judged for your actions in society. There are some social norms that you have to have as a man.

Example:

You are approached group of 3 girls, but you are ignoring her friends, and just talking to your target girl. You go and buy a drink just for you and your girl, without asking her friends do they want something to drink. What they going to think about you?
This comes back to social intelligence. Because knowing girls, they really care about what her friends think about guy she meet. She will consult them before making final decision to meet you for a date or not. Buying a drink is not that extreme case, in most case it does not matter, but let’s say not introducing yourself to her friends, not talking to them at all etc.

Lack of Social intelligence can hurt big time when you are out there talking to girls. The hotter she is the less mistakes you can make. Therefore it’s important to develop good social Intelligence.

How to develop Social Intelligence:
Same thing like Emotional Intelligence, hangout with people, to use to what’s normal and what are not normal behaviors. Be aware of Social norms, things that are unspoken, but still important.

That’s why bartenders, service people who are non-stop exposed to social interactions develop really high Emotional and social Intelligence.

3) Solid level of IQ

IQ is important, but not that important. Use your IQ to utilize information you got from your Emotional and social intelligence, and act on it. This is best use of high developed IQ

For example, you are talking to a girl in a bar, and you stand there for 30-45min having a drink… at same time you notice she is wearing really sexy high heels. You can FEEL and see she is uncomfortable there, and her legs are hurting (EQ), you scan the room and see group of people paying bill on a table (SQ), your IQ should now come up with a plan and connect the dots. And take drinks and lead two of you to sit down. She will be thankful, because you take care of her, you take care of her feelings. For a woman it’s a pleasure to be in a presents of a guy like that. Guy who takes care of things, guy who is aware of things.

Natural players, players who are “born” well, they actually base their game on good Emotional and Social intelligence.

But best players are the guys who have amazing balance between all three factors.
Guys who are smart, who can talk about wine, talk about history of a planet… who are educated… but can feel and recognize her emotions, and they behave well in social settings.

Old school James Bond movies come to my mind now…

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