I often see males and females alike putting down other Women for their personal lifestyle choices. With all that is going on in the dating arena, it seems that women often have to pay for their mistakes and are often judged by a harsher penalty than the males for some of the same actions. If we would hold both men and women to the same level of accountability for their actions within our relating to one another, there would be a lot more understanding between us on certain issues.
I have a big problem with how men/males are allowed to be as promiscuous as they please and be praised for it. There is nothing wise in these days and times about sleeping around from Woman to woman, and in some cases men as well and it be looked at as a "notch" on your belt. It is tacky and in many cases dangerous because anyone who cares for themselves would be more discretionary as to who they lay with. But in feeling it is okay to be loose and free with your sexual process there are some things that you males need to realise.
Promiscuity breeds mistrust. The lifestyle warrants some level of deceit to allow it to continue. Just because society says it is okay to be loose in your lifestyle, does not mean you will not pay the consequences of doing so. When you bring another person into the equation, if you are not truly taking the time to get to know if the other person is on the same page as you are, you may run into problems that can affect you both in a unpredictable way.
Just because you have no discretion in the females you will have sex with, don't assume that all women will allow you that indiscretion with her. The sense of entitlement many men have when it comes to women is the reason we have so many males willing to be overly aggressive when encountering women, move from woman to woman, and in some cases as extreme as rape. (I know it is hard to face this, and it is not something that one wants to discuss, but the facts show this to be true.)
There is more to choosing who you have sex with than simple attraction. The woman being clean, and sexually attractive to you is only scraping the surface as to what you should require before intermingling your spirits/bodies/lives. Childish minds do these things without vetting who you are about to be with intimately, even if you don't plan on sticking around after you do the deed. You may abandon the person, but you will often take with you the negative spirits she possessed after she is nothing more than a memory. Many may fail to recognize the aftereffects of such a lifestyle until they are ready to settle down, and for some reason you can't get it right.
Too many males try to treat all the women that they encounter like they are just a "John" ( a prostitute's client) throughout your whole dating lives. It is sad that you cannot get to the next level because you lack the capacity to make real choices and leadership decisions. Don't blame the woman for that. Any woman that will let you hit without accountability sees your low value, because it matches hers. So whereas you may feel that hey I got the pannies as a win, but when you end up burnt out, bitter, and sick in the end what did you really win? Have you ever seen a man that can never keep a woman no matter how hard he tries? His skeletons cannot reside in the confines of a positive place. Either he will heal himself or continue to leave destruction in his path coming and going.
There is also a big misconception that males cannot exhibit the traits that they blame women for having. Males can be bitter, emotional, messy just like females, and often are hyper-violent as a result. Releasing emotions are not something society allows males to do without being labeled negatively. However being violent is considered manly because it is expected from males. So you will have a lot of males when they feel they are losing control of something they want, use intimidation and violence to keep hold of it. It is neither healthy or a happy place for those involved.
There is a level of maturity that many males avoid, yet men embrace. Taking shortcuts, but wanting the full benefits is idiotic and naive. Seeing the faults in women, but ignoring your own is juvenile and pretentious. You want functional, fun and full of the things that feel good to you, how about you dump all your baggage. There is no way around it. Sometimes it is not easy, it may even take time, but don't ruin the lives of the unsuspecting while you are getting yourself in order. Doing so adds to your baggage, and prolongs the forward motion into being with someone you can stop putting up a facade for. Trying to guard your heart is a heavy burden. Nothing wrong with allowing yourself to be free of dysfunction and just be.
