“Loving someone and having them love you back is the most precious thing in the world.”
― Nicholas Sparks, The Rescue

Finding true love is critical. This has been confirmed by multiple studies that have shown on that married people live a healthier life physically and spiritually, and recover better from diseases.

For example, according to an article from Harvard Health Publication, a survey of 127,545 men proved that married men live longer than single, divorced or widowed men. Another recent study by the American College of Cardiology’s 63rd Annual Scientific Session found that married men have lower rates of several cardiovascular diseases compared to single, divorced, and widowed men.

Still not convinced? In the National Longitudinal Mortality Study published in 2000 by the US Census Bureau, 281,460 men and women aged 45 and older were compared with regard to mortality. The Finding was that unmarried persons aged between 45- 64 years had a significantly higher risk of mortality than married people.

In short, it seems that relationships are a crucial element of being happy and healthy, as they enrich our lives emotionally, connect us to others socially, and provide for much more mental stimulation.

Unfortunately, though, for many, the quest for Finding Love seems quite challenging. I remember how frustrated I was about not finding my perfect match while at the same time hoping that someday a perfect partner would magically knock at my door and ask me to marry her. In hindsight, I now know though that being single for a while can also be a huge opportunity.

I have witnessed from the world of sport that it is the mindset of continuous learning that characterizes the very best. High performers believe that through hard work and self-correction, they can achieve anything they desire. Similarly, through sustained engagement with our goals, we too can use challenges to understanding what is holding us back, and make the changes we need to in order experience more success and happiness.

By fully committing to my goal of finding and keeping my dream partner, I experienced massive breakthroughs in various areas of my life. One reason for this was that this process helped me understand my own psychology much better, for example by making me aware of patterns of behaviors I would want to change. Another reason was that by overcoming a big turning point in my life, I developed the invaluable conviction that I am in control of my life and my destiny. A third reason was that I now had a partner in crime, who would help me stay accountable to continuously growing.

Finding true love is so important because it can be the trigger to many more personal victories. This is why I think that if you are single, and would like to find your dream partner, you should make this your biggest goal for the coming few months.

You can start this challenge by asking yourself some powerful questions like:

• Why are you still single?
• How were your past relationships?
• Why do you want to be in a relationship?
• What could you do differently?
• What are some steps you could be taking immediately?

Try and dig a bit deeper than the first spontaneous answers that might come to your mind. This is how you will not only become more aware as to what is holding you back, but you will also understand what your next steps should be so that next year you will be celebrating Valentine’s Day with your dream partner!

If you want to know what I did to transform my life from a partying bachelor to attracting the woman of my dreams, check out my book, How to win at Life and Love.

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