Feelings of being endlessly lonely could have its roots in Childhood Trauma. Being Endlessly Lonely Could Be Unresolved Childhood Trauma And when they do connect with others, the relationships they form aren’t always constructive ones. It seems that for many people these days, it’s gotten a lot harder to connect with others. Unfortunately, people who’ve experienced childhood trauma are at an even greater disadvantage when it comes to forming attachments. Childhood trauma can have lifelong repercussions. These can be minor to severe, depending on the severity and duration of the trauma, the presence of parental support during the traumatic events, as well as the innate resilience of the child who experienced them. In my years as a psychotherapist, I’ve noted that people with significant childhood trauma tend to struggle more than most with their relationships. These individuals have trouble getting close to other people, and when they do connect with others, the relationships they form aren’t always constructive ones. Trauma in childhood can come in many forms. It can take the shape of severe parental neglect or abandonment; boundary violations or exploitation; constant criticism or undermining; parental addiction(s) or incarceration; physical assault or sexual molestation; experiences of profound loss or fear; or living in unstable or dangerous environments. Regardless of what form the trauma takes, a lack of parental support combined with a higher degree of personal susceptibility to the traumatic events can lead to the formation of emotional wounds, and often, disorders of attachment. In emotionally intact adults, connecting to others comes relatively easy. We meet people, we like each other, and we form strong social bonds. In individuals who’ve experienced childhood trauma, all of these stages can be disrupted. People with a history of childhood trauma might believe that others will only want to associate with them if...

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