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It’s Time to Stop Being Nice at Work

Being nice at work is good, but being too nice can create problems for you. Stop Being Nice at Work Have you been trying to be a really nice person at work? Have you been noticing that your attempts have been backfiring? You might want to consider the possibility that instead of being so nice, you should work on trying to be kind, and that this subtle shift will make the difference between Workplace struggles and workplace success. The way I understand it, there’s a meaningful distinction between being kind and being nice; with the former being a successful interpersonal style at work and the latter being much more problematic. People are kind and compassionate when they’re confident and comfortable with who they are. Having good self-esteem, they’re not overly preoccupied with how others see them. An overly nice person, on the other hand, often feels more insecure, and seeks the approval and validation of others. This type of person tries to please others so that they can feel good about themselves. Very nice people bend over backward to oblige. They deal with potential conflicts in the workplace by doing more for the other person because they can’t bear to have anyone upset with them. Kind people still expect to be treated with respect at work. They assert themselves when necessary and avoid conflicts by choosing not to engage with the troublesome individuals in their workplace. They’re helpful to others but set appropriate limits on how much they’ll do. Overly nice people are often mistreated or taken advantage of in the workplace. They’re the ones who do the lion’s share of the work — the ones who come in early, stay late and compensate for the slackers. The overly nice person focuses on doing for others, to the detriment of...

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