Emotional Blackmail can happen in the friendships, within the family relations, or in a romantic relationship. The goal of a blackmailer is to be able to manipulate the other person and turn them into someone who fulfills their desires. Sometimes Blackmailing can be done in such a subtle way that the other person may not even realize that it is being manipulated. Although it may seem difficult to believe, a person who resorts to Emotional Blackmail is also insecure and weak. They need to recourse to blackmail to reach their goals since they do not see themselves really able to achieve things in a healthy way. Although they tend to present themselves as very secure, well mannered, reasonable and self-contained people.   Here are 4 ways to Emotional blackmail and how to avoid falling into this type of manipulation 1. Emotional blackmail by pressure or threat Manipulation of this kind consists of putting pressure on another person, in such a way that freedom is limited. If one does not do as one is asked to, there is a punishment or a great deal of upset later. The feeling presented by the victim in the face of this manipulation is fear. The typical phrase spoken by parents to their young children, “If you do it again, you will be punished,” or someone telling your partner, “If you do it again, it’s all over!” These are basic phrases in which, if the order is not followed, there will be a later consequence. How can we defend ourselves against this kind of emotional blackmail? Making the blackmailer see that he is not capable of causing us fear. A threat or pressure always seeks to generate fear and, thus, the victim ends up obeying. However, if there is no fear or if we make...

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