NOTE: women who are married to powerful men, entertainers, ball players, and business men are more likely to get cheated on. Men with money have access to more women, and women are attracted to money and power.
2. Be supportive: be supportive in his endeavors. Even if you don’t agree with what he does, support his dreams.
3. Attention: I know for many wives and girlfriends alike that once you go further into your relationship, other issues become a priority. You lose your way to what bought you and your man together. The children come first, so your husband or boyfriend feels neglected. There are no more quiet evenings at home, no more free time. By the time the kids go to bed you’re too tired to do anything. If you want to keep your man at home, you’re going to have to make time for him. Send the kids to your or his parent’s house for a weekend, or make time when the kids go to bed so you and your man have a little private time together. Go on a weekend getaway once a month. Bring the spark back.
I have done extensive research, on what makes men happy. A happy man is less likely to cheat. Some of these techniques may be right for you, others may not be. You don’t have to use all of them, but the ones that suit, you and your relationship best are the ones that you use.
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1. Communication: be able to communicate with each other. Neither one of you are mind readers. If you need to talk, sit down, and have that conversation.
2. Be supportive: be supportive in his endeavors. Even if you don’t agree with what he does, support his dreams.
3. Attention: I know for many wives and girlfriends alike that once you go further into your relationship, other issues become a priority. You lose your way to what bought you and your man together. The children come first, so your husband or boyfriend feels neglected. There are no more quiet evenings at home, no more free time. By the time the kids go to bed you’re too tired to do anything. If you want to keep your man at home, you’re going to have to make time for him. Send the kids to your or his parent’s house for a weekend, or make time when the kids go to bed so you and your man have a little private time together. Go on a weekend getaway once a month. Bring the spark back.
4. Cook from scratch: aromas can be an aphrodisiac. Also smells can put him in a good mood, and remind him of his childhood, or a good time in his life.
5. Bake: most men love the smell of hot sugar, cakes, pies, and cookies are the way to go.
6. Don’t let yourself go: how you get him is how you keep him. Keep your nails done, and your waist tight. If you are a BBW, keep yourself in shape do yoga, and exercise.
7. Don’t sweat the small stuff: if he leaves foot prints on the rug, don’t sweat it just clean it up.
8. Ask for less: (optional) the less you ask for, the more you will receive. If you’re not a gold digger or a gimme hog, he is more likely to feel like he’s not being used.
9. Rub his scalp: men like their scalp massaged, scrubbed, washed, or gently scratched. The scalp is rich in nerve endings. That’s why when we massage the scalp in the right way, the sensation creates a blissful experience. Start by placing your finger tips on the hairline at the base of the skull, and start massaging the scalp in dime sized circles like your washing his head. Slowly work your way from the back of the head to the front. For added pleasure, rake your fingers gently through your man’s hair like a comb, and grip a chunk of his hair at the roots, and gently tug. Gently pull his hair will stimulate nerve endings underneath the skin’s surface. NOTE: Make sure you have enough hair between your fingers because griping to little, and pulling will cause pain.
10. Let him watch sports: if you hate sports, go in the other room. Don’t nag him with “the honey we need to talk” speech. If you want to talk, do it before the game, or wait until it’s over. Don’t stand in front of the TV with dumb shit leave him alone. Go make him some hot wings.
11. Don’t hold the house work you do against him: for ex: I cook for you, clean for you, wash your skid marked drawers. Remember, you did it out of love, not because you had to.
12. During a fight avoid the words I feel, choose your words wisely. Again, men have very sensitive egos, especially about sensitive situations. Try to make the argument objective, not subjective.
13. Be nice to his friends: it’s always good to be nice to his friends. Avoid being “the bitch” because that will encourage his friends filling his head with bullshit.
14. Stop listening to outside influences: stop listening to your girlfriends. You don’t need any other chic telling you about your man.
15. Keep him away from distractions (if you can help it): you’re not with your man 24 hours a day. However, when you are with him, try to keep the attention on you, dress sexy. Give your ass an extra giggle when you walk.
16. Put his happiness first: (try at your own risk) men are turned on by selflessness. If he sees that you are putting his happiness first, he will be grateful. He will also feel special and loved.
17. OK ladies this is one of importance. You have to keep your man satisfied. I cannot stress this enough. If you’re the kind of lady that turns her nose up at certain sexual acts, then chances are your man is probably fucking someone else as you read this book. I suggest you get with the program. If you don’t suck dick, than you better start. “I’m not a freak, I don’t get down like that” (maybe if you were more of a freak, your man would stay home, in your bed where he belongs and out of mine ~Donnita) if you’re a missionary maiden, than you better get up off your back and ride that dick.
18. Make him depend on you: make yourself indispensable. Make him need you all the time. Make yourself invaluable. Make sure the comfort of his home surrounds you. If you leave, he won’t be able to function.
19. Make him proud of you: don’t let yourself go, be someone that he will be proud to show off to his friends. Give him something to brag about. You have to be the best woman since hot freshly baked sliced bread.
20. Give him his space: don’t be nuisances. Stop calling him 20 times a day. Give him some breathing space. He will appreciate you more if you have your own life. Do the things that you love to do, have a life of your own instead of bugging him all the time. Don’t be a bugaboo.
21. Familiarize yourself with his friends: no married man has any business going to outings or out at night (when he’s supposed to be with you) alone. If he’s going out, most likely he will be going out with his boys. Make sure you check out the kind of friends he associates himself with.
22. Take interest in his life: find out about what he’s doing when he’s not around you. Remember, this is different from snooping. You are just monitoring the interest that he has in his life.
23. Let him be the man: ladies I know you’re independent, and you don’t have to depend on a man. This is so wrong. He needs you just as much as you need him otherwise you wouldn’t have picked up this book. Let him be the man. Let him open the door for you, let him be head of the house hold and make the decisions in the home. Note: only let him have these positions if he is bringing to the table. If he doesn’t have a job, or is lazy he is not entitled to this position. However, let him do all the manly things that he is supposed to do.
24. Be careful with the male ego: especially in the bed room. If he has a small penis, don’t laugh or make fun of him. If his fuck game is not good, teach him how you want to be pleasured, don’t talk down to him. If he cums to quick, don’t say “is that it?” just simply try to bring him back up again, or comfort him. Let him know that you still love him.
25. Don’t compare him to past lovers: this is the worst thing to do a man is to compare him to your ex lover. If you need to compare your current man to your ex, then maybe you need to go back to him. Even if your current man is better than your ex, don’t bring him up. That’s why they are called exes for a reason. Big ego buster!!
26. Stop bringing up the past: whatever he did wrong, and you forgave him for it, don’t keep throwing the incident back in his face.
27. Behave like a lady: learn how to act in public. Don’t be loud and ghetto, or trailer park trash. Represent your man with class.
28. Dress appropriately: don’t dress like a hoe, or a slut. Leave something to the imagination. Dress classy not trashy.
29. Don’t lay your problems on him as soon as he comes through the door: when he comes home from work, give him a mental break. Don’t bombard him with problem as soon as he crosses the threshold.
30. Smell good: keep your ass and pussy clean. There’s nothing more unlady like than a cheesy ass.
31. Be kind to his mother: this is a hard one. Always be kind and respectful to his mother. I know it can be hard because some mother in laws is shrews, but try your best to be nice. If he is a mama’s boy you need to set things straight with him, and let him know to cut the umbilical cord, because he is a grown ass man with his own family.
32. Race to the door when you see him: this is a weird one. Stop whatever your doing and run to the door when he comes home from work. Greet him with a warm hug and kiss, make sure he’s comfortable. Make sure you have food cooking, run his bath and get him ready for dinner. Make your home a peaceful place. All the drama of work, and what goes on in the streets should be left at the door. Home should be his sanctuary.
33. Keep the house clean: when I listen to couples, and listen to why their relationship is falling apart, one of the first comments that come out of his mouth is “she don’t keep the house clean” she’s lazy. Give him a clean home to come home to. A lazy woman is a turn off.
34. Compliment him: ladies it’s all about the ego. Compliment him, tell him that he’s fine, he smells good, and he’s a beast in bed. After all, isn’t that what attracted you to him in the first place?
35. Thank him: gratification and appreciation is the way to his heart.
36. Listen to him: listen to your man. Learn how to shut up and give your man time to speak. I’m not saying you always have to agree with him, even if he is full of shit, always listen to what he has to say.
37. Encourage him: encourage your man to do well. Encourage him to eat healthy, and take care of himself. Encourage him to feel good about himself.
38. If he’s the sole provider of the household, thank him: thank him for the roof over your head, the clothes, and the food that he provides for the family.
39. If he’s angry at you, let him yell and you be quiet and listen: (optional) let him get his frustrations out, and you listen. When he’s done, then you give your side of the story.
40. Let him hang with his friends: I know we would rather have our man at home, but he deserves time with his friends. Let him go out with his friends, and don’t make him feel guilty about it.
41. If you’re man is annoyed with something that you do, then stop it: if he finds that your nagging is annoying, or your loudness then you need to stop this behavior.
42. Don’t ever talk bad about your man to friends or your family: if your friends or family agree with you, then you’ll really be disappointed because everyone will know that you have a bad man, and then you’ll be even more unhappy.
43. Use your time wisely: if you are a home maker, set up an online business, go to school, or learn how to run a business. Don’t just sit home and watch day time TV.
44. Good manners are a plus: no man wants a barbarian on his arm, so use your home training. If you don’t I suggest you take etiquette classes.
45. Make sure all of his clothes are clean, and pressed so he looks his best, and press his work clothes.
46. Take interest in his hobbies: ladies I’m not saying that you have to like his hobbies, all I’m saying engage in his hobbies from time to time to spend some quality time with him. Note: sometimes men like for their hobbies to be enjoyed by himself only. His hobby time may be his quiet time. If he wants to enjoy his hobbies alone, then respect that.
47. Learn how to work the pole: spice up and sprinkle some excitement into your relationship. Take some exotic dance classes. Learn how to strip tease and manipulate your ass muscles to make your booty clap. Buy a pole and put it in your bed room. Dress up sexy and role play. You are the naughty stripper, and he’s the paying customer. Make your love life exciting. Also take some yoga classes. These classes will come in handy when you stretch yourself into those complicated yet sensual positions.
48. Let him have the remote: ladies I know your man likes to watch TV. Sometimes it may be a little too much but don’t hog the remote let him have it.
49. (DO AT YOUR OWN RISK) Ask your man what his fantasy is, and try to fulfill it. If you decide to bring a third party into your bed, be informed of the consequences. If you bring another woman into your bed, be aware that in some cases that your husband or boyfriend may want to continue seeing this woman, sometimes behind your back. If there are no condoms used, there will be a possibility that the third party will end up pregnant. In a worst case scenario, if she is just a random chic that you found in the street, she have something that you can’t get rid of.
50. Include yourself in his work life: this will put you in the position of being a real person, and not just the girlfriend of wife “ghost” that he always talks about but no one will ever see. Also the women at his place of employment (especially if he’s fine) will back off of him. Note: Some women may back off others may not.
51. Respect his privacy: don’t go through his cell phone, or his personal belongings. This is a turn off to most men this signals insecurity. If your relationship is to the point where you have to go through his phone, and his personal items, then there is no truest. If there is no trust, there is no relationship.
52. AVOID DRAMA LIKE THE PLAGUE: Men hate drama, don’t bring the drama into your home leave the drama outside. And most of all don’t bring a drama queen.
53. Don’t try to change him: If your man is set in his ways, chances are he’s going to stay that way. You cannot change him unless he wants to change.
54. Brag about him: nothing strokes a man ego more than hearing his woman brag about him. Talk about his accomplishments to others. That will make him feel proud.
55. Home is the safe heaven: I cannot stress this enough. Every man wants to look forward to coming home. When you ask a cheating man his reasons for cheating, one of his reasons is he is not happy with his home life. Ladies, I’m telling you, make the home the safe haven, the best place on earth. Leave the dramatics, bullshit, and bickering out in the street. Because if you don’t, you will be wondering where you man is when he should be home with you. Make your home a no yell zone, peaceful and positive.
56. Ask for his opinions: don’t leave him out of your activities or decision making. Include his input make him feel important.
57. Allow him to have female friends: (be careful with this) allow him to be cool with other females. All women won’t push up on your man. However, keep an eye on those female friends.
58. Do not ask him about the women in his past: don’t ask questions that you don’t want to know the answer to. Just make sure that he hasn't dipped his spoon into another man’s pudding. Clean blood is a MUST!! Make sure he gets tested, and bring you back the paper work
59. When you are wrong apologize: if your are wrong, swallow your pride, and admit it.
60. Serve him meals in bed: after that good ass sex make him some breakfast. Not some bullshit rice crispies or oat meal. I’m talking about steak, eggs, grits, biscuits, and pancakes. Serve him like a king. After all he did fuck you like one.
61. Take showers with him: take a shower with your man. Lather up the bubbles wash his back, and let the suds slide down the crack of his ass while you tickle his balls and give him a good hand job.
62. Don’t remind him of his failures: instead of reminding him of his shortcomings, help him correct them.
63. (VERY IMPORTANT): don’t embarrass him or contradict him in public. A Man does not like for his woman to embarrass him in front of his family and friends. This is one of the fastest ways to push your man into the arms of another woman.
