The Case

Commitmentphobia among men is very common today. It had been there for ages, maybe as old as our civilization. Men were known for their reluctance to regress their prerogatives. And a pledged relation, such as a matrimony, would always – at the minimal in their ratiocination – cut them off from that freedom of being single.

Men are, characteristically, very unconstrained. They delighted to do and end things for themselves, and by themselves. Being associated, for example, would put him in a condition where he lose his freedom to do all things he likes the way he hankers. There is even an old story concerning it: “It is said that the bride wears white gown because white represents serenity and cheer. If that’s real, then why does the groom constantly array dark colors?”

But, granting all this fright of commitment among men had been there for ages, it had never been a worrying complication until now. Today, more and more men are found to have to a discomposure to Committed interrelationship to some level, even to the amplitude of phobia. Yes, more and more guys live with afraid of commitment today! What are the reason of it? And how can we manage it?

The Originator

In today’s world, the causes of afraid of Committed Relationships in men are no longer as incomplex as in a couple decades ago. Albeit it’s withal actual that the ultimate grounds for commitment phobia among men is their objection to recede prerogatives, today the advancements that women have obtained also play a principal role.

There are so many women now are financially much more self-reliant. And more and more occupations, that were traditionally administered by men now have been usurped by women.

For ages, men by nature have the part as provider for his kinfolk. That capacity had given them sensat ion of confidence. They knew that their kin (partner and kids) needed them. The belief of being needed helped him feel significant.

The latest developments, as well as the advancements in newscasting telecommunications that enable us to hear every rumor and ways among celebrities with all their immoral stories, have degraded innumerable men’s sureness and feeling of surety. The information around how so many women now can deceive their men easily and steal their money, as well as their own bad experiences with women in their lives make the idea of being sworn for a lifetime relationship to single one woman is just too scary!

And it’s not just that. The nonchalance trend now to get sex anytime they want also contributes greatly to their reluctance to be involved in committed relationships. There are more and more women now who don’t mind at all to do one night stand with a man just for fun. And also that “friend with benefit” way of life that is so common today makes more and more men think that a committed relation is unneeded.

The Answer

I guess there’s no such thing as a explicit solution for this. If you are already in a interrelation with a men with Fear of commitment, then you only have two choices: either to get a break and keep yourself from more incoming discomfit and misery, or to help him to master his fear of committed relationships . The second option of course is not easy. It could torture you mentally and emotionally. But the option is yours to make. The key is, persistence and composure.

Honestly, I will not commend to keep your relation with him unless you know for sure, with all you heart and soul, that he is “the one” for you, your soul mate. But, even if he is, I must tell you: your attempt to win him will not be easy. You may have to pause seeing him for a few weeks or even months (after having a heart-to-heart talk about what you want from him in the relationship) to give him time and space to solve his problems. If he genuinely loves you, then he would arrive at a point where he becomes conscious of the fact that the thing he frightens the most is losing you, not committing to you.

And for you who have not been in affiliation, there are few signs of fear of commitment that you can use to detect whether a man is a sufferer of fear of committed relationships or not. Preventing is constantly easier than curing. So, if you recognize that a love interest suffers a commitmentphobia , do yourself a favor: run away! Unless… of course, you know deep within your heart that he is “the one” for you.