Conflict is a fact of life. The sooner we accept that fact, the easier life will be. No one likes Conflict. In fact, most of us exert a lot of time and energy avoiding it. This is not an effective method of dealing with it, however. The key to dealing with conflict is developing a healthy strategy for it. We also need to understand that conflict is not always a bad thing. In fact, it is good for you for it develops character and stronger relationships. Psalm 35 gives us a detailed method of conflict resolution. In this chapter there are 5 basic principles for conflict resolution.
#4 - Have compassion on those who have done you wrong (v. 13, 14)
Compassion is the ability to look past the fault and see the need. The spirit of offense will cause you to take what happened personally. The spirit of compassion on the other hand, will help you see the offender through the eyes of Jesus. Compassion requires forgiveness. This is what Christ did for us. This may be the hardest thing you have ever done, but it is the only way to completely resolve conflict. Does this mean that we let sin go unpunished and look the other way? No, it simply means that we leave that up to the Holy Spirit.
#5 - Keep your mouth shut. (v. 28)
This is probably the hardest of the 5 principles to follow. The ultimate goal of Satan once you are offended is to spread your offense to others. The tool he uses is your mouth. Notice what David didn’t do – he doesn’t tell anyone! The only person he talks to is the Lord. Once you open your mouth and talk to someone else, you are gossiping. This not only injures the other person, it further hurts you. Have you ever tried to feed a child who refuses to open his mouth? It’s impossible. Satan can’t feed you the spirit of offense if you refuse to open your mouth!