To start a conversation with a woman, men must walk a precarious Tightrope these days. As we walk along that thin thread we dare not look down. Breathing wrong might cause a dangerous movement. Lose focus and you lose balance.
Fall and you end up as a social media pariah, an outcast, or worst case, plunge into a lawsuit. Navigate that rope and you might end up with a relationship. Might.
As mentioned before, men must make First Contact. Well, that is unless the man is rich or a rock star (or both). To make First Contact men face rejection, putdowns, derision and more. However, to maintain the species we must forge forward. Okay, that's overly dramatic, but to get anywhere, men must risk it.
In a previous blog, I also talked about men making catcalls. The gist of that insightful essay (really, you should read it), was that it stems from our primal need to mate and that through the eons, the methods to begin the process have changed. Some men are idiots, some suave (and everything between). Taking the first step, making First Contact, is the same.
The #MeToo phenomena has made the walk on the tightrope even more perilous.
Oh, I strongly support Women coming out and reporting about sexual assaults. Women need to keep doing this as well as not letting someone get away with the action when it occurs.
WARNING: Blogger about to rant in an unpleasant and less than friendly manner.
Men who greet women at the door naked, expose themselves, send dick pix, and other disgusting modes of abuse are slimy lowlife, scumbags who should be strung up by their junk…
Oops, sorry got carried away. Anyway, there is no place for sexual assault in our society. However, the pendulum shouldn’t swing too far the other way either.
For example, I’ve already heard several news stories about waitresses, service industry women and others stating they were sexually harassed. Yet, when they give more details it sounds like flirting. This harkens back to a number of years ago when extreme feminists declared that anytime a man made a pass at a woman it was an unwarranted sexual assault.
There has to be a balance. Women need to understand the difficulty of the process.
My father met my mother eons ago at a lunch counter in a drug store. He flirted with her and eventually got the courage up to ask her out. This was—and is—a common occurrence.
Some enchanted evening, you may see a stranger across a crowded room. Then fly to her arms and make her your own—stop you sexual predator! For you youngsters, those lines are from “South Pacific” and demonstrate why we need to have a balance. If just meeting and talking to a stranger is harassment, then do we return to the old days of arranged marriages?
Centuries from now, as we’re exploring the stars and distant galaxies, maybe women will make First Contact. Overcome their fears and reach out to that alien who caught their eye. Ask him out to a space bar for a Pan Galactic Gargle Blaster (cheap “Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy” plug).
Until then, women need to understand the difficulties of First Contact. They need to realize that we guys will likely continue to make that First Contact everywhere we go (we’re always on the prowl). From the gym and grocery stores to the bars and nightclubs, we men will seek out women. Women shouldn’t allow perversion or assault, but they need to recognize our attempts—no matter how feeble or crazy or goofy—to get to know them.
Ahh, James Thurber
