Some think it’s possible to live in a perfect world where everything goes our way all the time. That’s la-la land.

Others know it’s possible to live in a world where we can adapt all the time. That’s what we choose to make it.

It’s all very well to expect happiness, peace, joy, love, wellness and harmony as our right but what about grief, anger, despair, hate, sickness and chaos? Shutting our eyes and pretending there’s not a downside is like valuing the left (logic) hemisphere of our brain and ignoring the presence and function of the right (creative) side.

We need both. The “positive” and the “negatives”. This is the true human experience and how we cope with challenges and achievements is what makes up the tapestry of our legacy.

We can be creative just as easily as we can be defensive.

Our bodies react differently with each release of a hormone. They are there for a purpose. Maybe to give us the strength to lift something heavy off a trapped child. To run more quickly. To be still at a time of loss.

We respond differently sexually as well. The hormone mix of the time includes all the ones that make us sad, strong, sexy and so on. Every moment of our lives is full of these surprises and the more we know what makes us tick, the more we not only cope but also thrive.

If we know we are going to flash every time someone aggravating comes into the room – it becomes our choice to be there in the first place or to prepare ourselves beforehand if avoidance is not an option.

If we know our sexual needs, don’t we have more control over our lives? The Asking Kaz sex profile is an invaluable way to take this control.

And choose acceptance and gratitude every time.

And leave the la-la land to those who choose ignorance.

Here’s to lovin’ and learnin’.