We got to the point of nearly calling off the wedding when my fiance wanted to go for Couples Counseling. He really wanted to go and I just really did not. This put an even greater strain on an already volatile situation.

Since then, I have learned that it is normal for a person to want to resist counseling. Not because they have anything to hide, but for some people, it is hard to open up sensitive subject matter to a stranger. This is a definite problem if it comes to a point where you need someone to counsel you and offer direction and help.

You might think to yourself, that this is ridiculous, I don't need help with anything, we can work this out on our own. Well, it is my bet that if you are reading this article, then you need some outside help with your relationship.

Please don't feel like there is anything wrong with you for realizing that this is an area you need help. Rather, give yourself a pat on the back for being real and truthful with the situation at hand and know that there are others out there facing the same issues. And there is also tons of help.

Since going out of my shell and getting the help we needed, I found all my friends from the church I go to and my relatives have gone through many of the same things. I also found that I didn't have to hide my troubles because it might look bad for Jesus. Christians go through just as much garbage as any other person.

They might seem to have a handle on everything, but generally, if they are real, they are just walking by faith, believing that God will help them work everything out. If you are having difficulties with your relationship, get with a couple's counselor and seek good sound advice.

It is my recommendation for Godly counselors to take on your relationship issue, because there is a strong motivation for them to keep you together. The word of God is against division and divorce. This counselor may try more to help you two understand your purpose for being together and offer good guidance and practical ways to make your bitter situation turn sweet. Our church offers free couples counsel, but some charge because this will be the person's life ministry.

You may think, because you aren't Christian that you can't go for Christian couples counseling, but you would be mistaken. If you just don't want to go to one, then thing about why you think that way and if you still feel compelled to not get church counsel then please go somewhere. The phone book is full of qualified people who desire to help you. Trust me, you will be happy in the long run if you just jump right in and seek help today.