When I started out to learn and develop skills set to get good with Women, one aspect was hammered by the pick up community was to approach no matter what.

Approach that girl, this girl, one who was with friends,family also, etc just approach. Approach everywhere, streets, coffee shops, bars, colleges, I mean everywhere.

And to set an example lot of pua’s (pick up artist) made Infield Videos of all kinds, showing them approaching in the day time, night time, in fact any time.

In fact it was ingrained in amateurs like us that if you can’t approach any where and anytime (not literally) then you are not taking action. Sadly I believed it, and as time went by I kept approaching in India like a gunslinger firing bullets everywhere.

But one critical aspect those pua’s missed was the importance of the culture of any particular country. This lack of understanding of how culture of a particular country must be taken into account, disappointed lot of aspiring casanovas.

Let me elaborate, a young lad like me watches infield videos and read some theory, then goes out in the town approaching every women he encounters, expecting similar results or outcome he sees in those infield videos, but much to his dismay he just couldn’t get it.

Which leads him to disregard and dislike himself. He goes into this self doubt and negative talk which worsens his mental state more, resulting in failure to create any form of connection with women. This young lad never takes into account how women in his country are brought up, the mindset, belief, social pressures, etc.

But “no’, pua’s will argue, a man should after spending time approaching women, “be able to get consistent results”.

Well to that I would say to those Pua’s, go to Saudi Arabia and approach women on the street and get those similar results which you guys show in your infield videos.

“oh no women don’t talk to random men in that country”. Well that’s exactly what you are missing, Cultural Calibration.

For example in my country India where I reside, if a man goes up to a random woman and says “Hi I saw you from there, I think you are pretty”. Most women will give courtesy smile and then leave, women here can’t imagine hooking up on the street like that. It is how women are filtered here.

But if a man goes up to a woman on the street and then ask for things like “Can you suggest some places to kill time?”, most likely a woman will respond with some suggestions and in the mean time if you know how to be playful and confident while the suggestions are coming out, then chances of something happening goes up drastically.

Why? It is because, asking for some places to suggest, buys time to assess her and allows you to display your personality to her. Then some form of chemistry can be created.

How ever manly it seems to be direct with women, it is essential to be smart about it and fine tune your approach to the environment.

Once a man understand the cultural implication of any particular country, his expectations are well managed, which is key to happiness.