Do you want to know the best ways to get back your ex-girlfriend? Have you tried several times but failed?
Are you frustrated and thinking of giving up?
Don’t!
In this article, I will show you what you can do to make it happen.
Curious?
Then continue reading…
Related: How To Get Back Together With Your Ex
1. Your Mindset
No soldier goes to war thinking that he will lose the war, right? And no soccer player goes onto the field hoping that his side will lose the game, right?
In that same vein, make up your mind that only the best can happen when you make efforts to get back your ex-girlfriend.
Why You Must Be Positive
It will give you the vim and confidence you need to persevere even when she proves stubborn.
Exhibiting an unrelenting spirit can make her see how serious you are about her and it can help her change her mind about trying to work things out.
And here’s the big one…
2. Excel At Something
Are you living a mediocre life? Are you just another member of the crowd? Do you live an ordinary life?
If your answer to all these questions is yes, then there is nothing special about you that may make your ex-girlfriend feel that she is losing someone great and valuable.
And that is why she does not bat an eyelid lid when you tell her you want her back.
So how can you change the situation?
Wow Her!
If you want to get back your ex-girlfriend, do something extraordinary.
- If you are in school, work very hard, I mean extra, extra hard, and make good grades so that you can become the talk of the school.
- Learn a new skill such as playing the guitar or drumming, record a love song, and promote the song on social media.
- Do a brave deed in school—do advocacy work for poor students who are finding it hard to pay their school fees, advocate for a female student who is undergoing abuse at home, champion student’s rights on campus and so on.
- If you are a worker, fight for a cause with zeal and passion. Set up an NGO to take care of street children, contact people and influence them to help the homeless, do charitable acts every week, set up an NGO to fight for women’s rights in your community and so on.
You may be asking yourself, “Right. Do this and do that and go to the moon and dance calypso and…and so what! How can this help me to get back my ex-girlfriend?”
How Excelling At Something Can Help You To “Score Points”
Have you ever watched the President giving a soldier a medal for bravery at the war front?
And then when you read the newspaper the next day, this soldier’s picture was in it?
And then when you tuned in to watch Oprah you saw his face…
You get the point?
Here’s the deal…
Guys who do brave deeds become popular and win the hearts of people.
When you leave your “comfort zone” and you “get your hands dirty” and become popular, your ex-girlfriend is bound to see what you are doing and how you are helping disadvantaged people.
Want to know the best part?
Ladies like to be associated with popular and famous guys.
So
- when she reads the rave reviews that you are getting all over the place;
- when she hears the comments people pass about how you are contributing to make the lives of others better;
- when she sees how people respect you as your result of your new status
she may want to have a piece of the “cake” too—she may want to get back into your social circle again so that she can enjoy some of the attention too.
And when she renews her friendship with you, BINGO!
You can cajole her with sweet words and promises of doing things differently this time. And you can give promises that you will treat her differently.
Those sweet words can tip the scales and make her give your dead relationship life again.
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And it gets even more interesting…
3. Use “The Magnetizing Mood” Whenever You Meet Her
You remember days on which you have met ladies and their mood just makes you want to associate with the person, right?
It just makes you feel that, “I just want to spend more time with this lady,” right?
That is what I call “the magnetizing mood”—a mood that makes it hard for someone to leave you when you meet them.
How Can You Show This Magnetizing Mood?
- Avoid showing anxiety or looking needy. Take in deep breaths to help you feel relaxed and go with the flow.
- Don’t grumble or complain when you are with her.
- Don’t talk about problems whilst you are with her, but solutions to problems.
How The Magnetizing Mood Can Help You To Get Back Your Ex-Girlfriend
Showing a magnetizing mood consistently whenever you meet your ex-girlfriend will
- make you leave an indelible impression on her mind;
- this impression may make her see you in a new light;
- the change in her perspective may help stir her affection for you again; and
- so, she may miss you again, which can help rekindle feelings for you in her again and make her desire a comeback.
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4. Ask Her About Her Love Life
If she tells you that she is still single and searching
- show excitement and drop hints that you miss her and she is always welcome back whenever she decides to reconnect; and
- subtly drop hints that you are also still single and searching.
- For example, you may say something such as this, “I hope you find what you are looking for out there. But you know what, I…I miss the good times we had in the past. You know what, my doors are always open if you need a friend. You know I am always there for you, right?”
You can use that to make her mind work to accept that the relationship may not be over. That can pave the way for you to let her see why you should get back together again.
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5. Use Her Closest Female Friends
Your very close male friends can sometimes influence you to change your mind, right?
Sometimes you are so angry with someone, but when a male friend you trust and love talks to you about the situation, it makes you change your attitude towards the person who hurt you, right?
You change your mind because you feel that the male friend understands the situation and cares about you so much that whatever he is suggesting will benefit you in the long run, right?
In just the same way, you can get back your ex-girlfriend by getting some of your girlfriend’s very Close Female Friends to talk to her about getting back together with you.
Why This Will Work
Since your girlfriend knows that her close female friends want the best for her, she is likely to seriously consider a request they make on your behalf.
And when they keep reminding her and impressing upon her how the two of you will make a great couple, she may see truth in that and choose to give your relationship another chance.
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6. Let Her Elder Sisters Help You
Another strategy you can use to get back your ex-girlfriend is to implore the help of her Elder Sisters, especially those who may have broken up with their boyfriends but reunited later.
Why their elder sisters?
Here’s The Deal:
Women trust the judgment of their elder sisters who have experiences in love matters.
They feel that because their “experienced” elder sisters are also women, they can spot a guy who can make a woman happy, or a guy who is good marriage material.
So, when her sister(s) talk to her and make her see that you are a good guy and she will be happy with you if she gives you another chance
- she may ruminate upon all the good things you did for her whilst you were dating; and
- she will remember the times you made her happy.
The happy feelings those nostalgic memories will induce can motivate her to choose to work things out again instead of taking the easy way out—quitting the relationship.
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Points To Remember
To get back your ex- girlfriend
- be upbeat about the whole “project”;
- do extraordinary things;
- magnetize and mesmerize her whenever you meet her; and
- let her female friends work on her mind.
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Now It’s Your Turn!
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