We all have those days. Those days when we feel like a Bad Mum. When everything we do or say seems to go against us, when we feel like a failure, and we most definitely feel like we are not winning at this mum life. So today to help you get through those days or maybe even weeks when you feel like a bad mum, I’ve called on fellow parenting bloggers to share their tips, advice and strategies to help lift you out of that “bad mum” hole.

Take a trip down memory lane

I look back on pictures to see how much they have grown and what they have achieved like the first time they rode a bike, their first nativity etc – it helps to shows how far they have come and how much you have helped them learn and grow. I then tell myself not to be so hard on myself ! – Ankle Biters Adventures 

Call in the girl gang

Talk to the girls! Get in that group chat and tell them you’re being too hard on yourself and need some encouragement. Works every time. – Hi Baby Blog 

Remember – if you think you’re bad, you’re probably not!

I remind myself that by even thinking I’m a Bad Parent it proves that I am not (if that makes sense!). If I was a Truly bad parent I would even be worrying about it. I have days like this all the time but you can only try your best. – Real Mum Reviews

Focus on the positives

Think about all the good times! You rarely feel like a bad parent ALL the time. Then think about how you can change the way you react that made you feel bad in the first place – for example if you shouted, try to count to three next time before reacting. – A Mum Reviews  

Remember tomorrow is a new day

Sit down at the end of the day and look for the positives from that day. There will always be one, even if it’s a small thing. Focus your attention and thoughts on that positive and know that no matter how hard a day has been, tomorrow is a new day. – Miracle Max  

Get some perspective

I definitely think it’s important to share how your feeling with your partner or close friends. They can usually help me get perspective! I think that feeling usually stems from something else and not actually my parenting so it’s important to just talk things through! – Edinburgh With Kids  

Talk to the kids

If you need to say sorry for something then say it. Tell them you feel bad about something and they will defend you and tell you how wonderful they think you are. You will feel a lot better after a cuddle! – Yorkshire Wonders

Know that questioning yourself is a good thing

Talk to a friend of relative you trust. They’ll tell you if they think you could do something different (or better, dare I say it?!), but 99 times out of 100 they’ll actually reaffirm that you’re doing a wonderful job. None of us are perfect, but all of us parent with love – and our babies know that! Even the fact that we question ourselves is proof of our care of getting it right. – Refined Prose 

Talk to your own mum

I talk to my mum, she has been there and raised me so I feel that she won’t judge me at all and will know where I’m coming from. I turned out ok..I think! – Ready Freddie Go 

Get some headspace

Have some time alone. Even just half an hour for a walk or run or an hour to meet a friend for coffee. Recharge your ‘Mum battery’ and you will feel much better. Try and remember that we are all muddling along, trying to get it right and that we all slip up sometimes. – Pink Pear Bear 

Go back to basics

When I feel like a bad parent I remind myself of the little things; he’s alive, he’s healthy, he’s loved. Okay so sometimes I may lose my patience or we may have days where he’s frustrated but I try to think of it as healthy that he sees that as well. Sometimes we just need to take a step back, take a breath and really take it back to basics. – Devon Mama  

Switch it up

I usually choose to do something spontaneous with the kids – take them out, get a craft out, do some baking. I take the time to devote my attention entirely to them for a chunk of time. Usually makes me feel better, especially as I am pretty isolated and have no one about to confide in much – Someone’s Mum 

See it from your children’s point of view

Luckily for us, children are incredibly forgiving and while you are busy beating yourself up over what you did or didn’t do, they are probably sitting there secretly thinking you are the best mummy ever. So try and see things from their point of view, and take their approach of being in the now, and moving onto the next thing after any misdemeanours may have happened as opposed to wallowing in it – easier said than done I know! – Motherhood: The Real Deal 

What do you do when you feel like a bad mum? Do you have any tips or advice to offer? Or perhaps you’re reading this after having a bad day? Do leave a comment and share.

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