2022-11-14 11:00
After working with parents for many years, I’ve observed that one of the pitfalls parents fall into is over-parenting. Call it helicopter parenting, lawnmower parenting, or even over-i… Read More
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2022-11-07 11:00
What that child needs is a good scolding! How often have you thought or said that? Scolding children is a well-used parenting strategy, but unfortunately, it is not usually the most effectiv… Read More
2022-10-31 10:00
There’s a lot of scary going around this time of year. From horror movies to haunted houses to ghost-like trick-or-treaters. Of course, as adults, we take it all in fun, but what about… Read More
2022-10-17 10:00
Your kids will hurt or offend you on a regular basis. Unfortunately, it’s one of the crosses that parents must bare. Occasionally, they may intend to hurt you, but much of the time it… Read More
2022-10-03 10:00
Just because your child has low grades does not mean they are an underachiever. Rather, it is a child who gives a noticeably poor effort that results in grades lower than you know they are c… Read More
2022-09-26 10:00
Chores are just a reality of life. They make the home function smoothly, and some are pretty basic life skills that teach kids how to work. If you are tempted to do too much for your kids, y… Read More
2022-09-19 10:00
Parents are usually all about instilling healthy habits into their kids, but wait a minute! What about YOU, Mom and Dad? As you work to teach your kids good lifestyle habits, don’t neg… Read More
2022-09-12 10:00
Would you say your parenting leans toward the plus or the minus? Parents that lean towards the plus side often deal with their challenges by adding more to their plate. They want tips to hel… Read More
2022-09-05 10:00
Have you ever cringed when you heard a screaming child in the grocery store or restaurant? Can’t they control their child? Or worse, has your child been the one screaming in public and… Read More
2022-08-29 10:00
Do you have kids who dawdle? How many times a day do you hear yourself telling them to “hurry up”? Do they dilly-dally when you are in a hurry to get out the door? Do they dawdle… Read More
2022-08-22 10:00
Name calling may seem like a trivial offense. After all, “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me”—right? WRONG. Yes, our society believes in fre… Read More
2022-08-15 10:00
Being assertive means being positive and confident. You are aware that you are a worthy person with your own special gifts. You think for yourself and express your own ideas. You know what y… Read More
2022-08-08 10:00
Success in school will not automatically happen. As school starts, parents are hopeful that their child will have a successful year. They are eager to see their kids thrive, make new friends… Read More
2022-08-01 10:00
Do you ever have moments when keeping calm with your little children seems impossible? Perhaps you find yourself too angry to respond in a loving and calm way to your children. You know that… Read More
2022-07-25 10:00
Do you like your child’s friend choices? Perhaps you don’t pay much attention because you are just glad they have friends to hang out with, friends to keep them busy. Or maybe yo… Read More
2022-07-18 10:00
Parents who try to make their blended family like their first family may be headed for frustration and disappointment. It’s important to accept that things are different and focus on s… Read More
2022-07-11 10:00
What newness awaits your child this school year? For many children, the start of school is exciting and greatly anticipated. But for others, it means uncertainty and change as they head to a… Read More
2022-07-04 12:40
How are you fostering independence in your child? As a parent, you may have a sense of satisfaction in knowing that you are needed. But as your kids get older, your need to be needed should… Read More
2022-06-27 10:00
With summer in full swing and the kids out of school, you may often find yourself thinking or even saying to someone, “my kids are driving me crazy!” If that’s you this sum… Read More
2022-06-20 10:00
There’s a lot of mental health chatter these days and for good reason. Consider these facts: 1 in 5 U.S. adults experience mental illness each year1 in 20 U.S. adults experie… Read More
2022-06-06 10:00
Talking to your child about death is a conversation no parent wants to have. But death is a subject that our kids must face in their lives, some sooner than others. For some, it’s the… Read More
2022-05-30 10:00
We all like to feel a sense of safety and security. Kids are no different. Children who feel secure are more likely to become independent and emotionally healthy as they grow up. When a chil… Read More
2022-05-23 10:00
Quality time versus quantity time–which is most impactful when it comes to your children? Quantity time for parents and kids refers to the amount of time a parent is physically pr… Read More
2022-05-16 10:00
During this month when we focus on mental health awareness, let’s not forget about parents and their mental health. A parent’s mental health can range from burnout to depression… Read More
2022-05-09 12:00
How do you talk to your children about war? When Russia invaded Ukraine a couple of months ago, news of the war was everywhere. Perhaps you or your kids have felt overwhelmed or uneasy at al… Read More
2022-05-02 10:00
It can be difficult to detect mental health problems in children because childhood development is a changing process that can account for a lot of up and down emotions. It can also be diffic… Read More
2022-04-25 10:00
While most of us admit that listening to our kids is important, we fall short when the rubber meets the road and instead assume that our kids should be listening to US. But if we want our ki… Read More
2022-04-18 10:00
No matter how much you want to avoid fights with your children–or conflicts, or heated disagreements, or whatever you want to call them–even the most controlled parent can find t… Read More
2022-04-11 10:00
Your child’s behavior may cause you to have days when you feel the urge to lock your children in their rooms so you don’t have to face their difficulty. Although I think we can a… Read More
2022-04-04 06:00
Parenting is one of the hardest jobs on the planet. Daily challenges can leave you guessing, hoping, and sometimes fighting to hang on to the management of your home. In the heat of some of… Read More
2022-03-28 10:00
Parents are very sacrificial people. They give up a lot for their kids–sleep, time, energy, money, comfort–and they seldom ask for anything in return. While raising three kids wh… Read More
2022-03-21 10:00
Why won’t my kids listen? Do you get frustrated because your kids ignore you? Or maybe they acknowledge you, but don’t actually seem to hear what you are saying? Maybe this scena… Read More
2022-03-14 10:00
How concerned are you about your kid’s character? Or are you more concerned about what they achieve in school or in sports? What do you want for your kids beyond a college education an… Read More
2022-03-07 11:00
Your child’s friends are going to influence them, positively and negatively. Do you know who they are? Do you know anything about them? It’s important to know something about the… Read More
2022-02-28 11:00
How much time do you spend communicating? One study shows that the average American spends 70% of their active hours each day communicating verbally. That’s a lot of talking! But is it… Read More
2022-02-21 11:00
Helping Your Kids Change–is that the real job of parenting? Change from being selfish and uncooperative. Change from being irresponsible, and change from any other number of irritating… Read More
2022-02-14 11:00
What is your Valentines gift to your child today? February is known as a day of expressing love to the people in your life that are special to you. It can be argued that we should do this ev… Read More
2022-02-07 11:00
Anger and parenting often go hand in hand. When the kids push your buttons, it’s easy to get angry, and then parent out of that anger. Although this is a natural reaction, it is not wh… Read More
2022-01-31 11:00
Proactive Parenting is the difference between parenting on offense or defense. If you are a sports fan at all, you know that being on defense usually means you are defending your goal, your… Read More
2022-01-24 11:00
When it comes to raising leaders, are they born or can you as a parent raise them to become someone that people look to as a leader? It’s an age-old discussion, but I’ve decided… Read More
2022-01-17 11:00
Is your child’s success in life based on good grades? A scholarship to college? The right friends? Many parents associate their child’s success with possessing intelligence, whic… Read More
2022-01-10 11:00
Time management is not an impossible task for parents, although it probably feels like it most days. If you are a busy parent–and what parent isn’t?–time is a precious comm… Read More
2022-01-03 11:00
What do your kids need to hear often? Whether you are a parent of a 5, 15, or 25-year-old, it’s always good to take a hard look at how you are doing at parenting. This year–and e… Read More
2021-12-27 11:02
If you like to set new year’s goals, or establish new year’s resolutions, here are my top 10 for parents in 2022: 1. Be sure your child feels and hears your love every day. Find… Read More
2021-12-20 11:00
You matter. Your words matter. How you speak to your children matters. How you speak to them will shape who they become. Your attitude, your words–these are the things will determine t… Read More
2021-12-13 11:00
When you find yourself arguing with your child, do you have to always be right? What if being right hurts your relationship with your child? Winning arguments with your child is not going to… Read More
2021-12-06 11:00
My child often disrespects me. Perhaps you feel that way because your child talks to you rudely or hatefully. How do you handle it? Do you raise your voice and yell back? That approach usual… Read More
2021-11-29 11:00
The parent who focuses only on raising kids could end up with children who are immature people in grown-up bodies. I have met 35-year-olds–and OLDER–who are running around still… Read More
2021-11-22 11:00
Problem-solving is a skill that will not only give your child confidence, it will save you some headaches long-term. Perhaps this scenario has played out in your home on numerous occasions:… Read More
2021-11-15 11:00
Parent-child contracts: Do they work? Are they worth the time? Are they good for your relationship with your child?To answer those questions, let’s start with reality in your home. Doe… Read More
2021-11-08 11:00
As parents, you often see how your stress affects your kids–maybe you see it in their eyes or in their behavior. There are even studies that suggest that a parent’s stress level… Read More
2021-11-01 10:00
Managing your anger when your child does something that royally ticks you off is a huge challenge for most parents. But disciplining your kids in the heat of anger often causes more harm tha… Read More
2021-10-25 10:00
When your kids are not listening, do you have any idea why? Maybe you feel like you are the only one listening to yourself when you are talking to them about something you feel is very impor… Read More
2021-10-18 10:00
Are you a full-time parent? This has nothing to do with whether you have a job/stay at home or homeschool/send them to school. It has everything to do with building a healthy, whole relation… Read More
What Is Your Child Thinking About? 12 Tugs-of-War That Are Going On In Your Child’s Mind Every Day
2021-10-11 10:53
What is your child thinking? Ever wish you could read their minds? Every day, there is a tug of war going on in your child’s mind and heart. No, it’s not “should I play vid… Read More
2021-10-04 10:00
What are your parenting principles? Have you taken the time to think through them? I’d like to suggest 10 parenting principles that will help you “lay down the law” for you… Read More
2021-09-27 10:00
Problem-solving skills will help your child much more than lecturing or sermonizing. In fact, parenting sermonettes rarely communicate lasting truths and will not help your children learn ho… Read More
2021-09-20 10:00
On a sports team, there are players and there are team players. A team player knows that what’s best for the team may not always agree with what he wants as a player. When my daughter… Read More
2021-09-13 10:00
Getting kids to listen is a challenge in every home. Perhaps this scene plays out in your home: You’ve asked your child to do something…once, twice, three, even four times. And… Read More
2021-09-06 10:00
Every parent wonders at one time or another, “why does my child disobey?” You’ve told them over and over what to do, you’ve talked about the reasons why, you’ve… Read More
2021-08-30 10:00
Building a strong family is a lot like building a house. In our neighborhood, I have watched the progress of several homes as they were being built. Concrete foundations, concrete brick by c… Read More
2021-08-23 10:00
Every kid has moodiness, friend troubles, academic struggles, and thanks to shutdown, mental health issues stemming from isolation. So, how do you know if your child is dealing with somethin… Read More
2021-08-16 10:00
Besides parents and family, friends are potentially the biggest influence in a child’s life. When they are little, the balance of influence tips to the parents, and the older they get… Read More
2021-08-09 10:00
Confident parenting has nothing to do with how many parenting books or classes you’ve taken. It does not mean that you’ve figured out exactly what your child needs in every situa… Read More
2021-08-02 10:00
The suicide statistics are startling. Since 2007… Suicide rates have increased by 76% for ages 15-18. Suicide rates have nearly doubled in teen girls. The highest rate of increase in… Read More
2021-07-26 10:00
Good communication in any home is the glue that holds the family together. It is the grease that will keep family members moving in sync. It is the foundation that will help your family weat… Read More
2021-07-19 10:00
Sometimes it’s hard to ask for parenting advice. As moms and dads, it’s humbling to admit that we don’t’ have all the answers. But the honest truth is that parents ha… Read More
2021-07-12 10:00
Has your child been the victim of bullying with words? When I was a child, my mother always told me that sticks and stones would break my bones, but words could not hurt me. Though her inten… Read More
2021-07-05 10:00
Did you enjoy the fireworks this past weekend? Or maybe there were some fireworks in your home as well? Last week I discussed 5 rules for fighting when conflicts arise in your home. But obvi… Read More
2021-06-28 10:00
In order to show your kids how to fight, you must begin with accepting that conflict is a normal part of a healthy relationship. Conflict is not something to be avoided or feared. When handl… Read More
2021-06-21 10:00
Helping your child grow up is not just about proving the physical needs for their life. It includes hard stuff like “pruning.” Every landscaper or gardener knows the importance o… Read More
2021-06-14 10:26
Believe it or not, your teens really do care what you think. According to this study, boys (82%) and girls (76%) said they valued their parents’ opinions over their friends’ when… Read More
2021-06-07 10:00
Safe teen driver. No, that is not an oxymoron. You can prepare your teen and guide them to being safe drivers. Maybe the whole license thing is bitter sweet for you: you’re looking for… Read More
2021-05-31 10:00
Getting kids to cooperate is a daily challenge for parents and as a parenting coach, I spend a lot of time coaching parents on how to get their kids to do that. Today, however, I am going to… Read More
2021-05-24 10:00
My dad talked about quality vs. quantity time when I was growing up. His philosophy was that quality mattered more than quantity when it came to spending time with his six kids. I’m no… Read More
2021-05-17 10:00
It’s easy to choose your child’s friends when they are little because you are in total control of their schedule and who they spend time with. But as your kids get older, they st… Read More
2021-05-10 10:00
Kids need to feel a sense of security. It is vital for them to grow up to be healthy, strong adults. British psychiatrist and psychoanalyst John Bowlby, the founding father of attachmen… Read More
2021-05-03 10:00
Parenting burnout is a real thing. Research published by Clinical Psychological Science states that parent burnout is: an exhaustion syndrome, characterized by feeling overwhelmed… Read More
2021-04-26 10:00
Would you say you are an overbearing sports parent? Throughout 21 years of being a sports mom and 33 years of being a coach’s wife, I have never met a parent who did not want their chi… Read More
2021-04-19 10:00
Are you becoming one of those micromanaging parents? Do you constantly interfere when your child has a friend over to play? Insist they always wear clothes that meet your standards? Hover ov… Read More
2021-04-12 10:00
Parenting love began the moment you held your child in your arms, whether they came from your womb or someone else birthed them. At first, it may seem easy to love our kids, when they are he… Read More
2021-04-05 10:08
When trouble comes, will your house stand strong? Every household is going to face difficulty at some point. It may be a job loss, a relationship crumbling, sickness, or financial stress. It… Read More
2021-03-29 10:00
The task to show love to your children every day can sometimes be easy and other times be one of the hardest things you will do as a parent. Kids are cute and wonderful when they are lovable… Read More
2021-03-22 10:00
Is your child in trouble? Most pre-teens and teens face common challenges—bullying, peer pressure, finding their identity, stress, poor body image, or low self-esteem. We all remember… Read More
2021-03-15 10:00
Do you often feel like each day is a parenting guessing game? A crapshoot of trying to figure what works and what doesn’t when it comes to getting your kids to cooperate? When my oldes… Read More
2021-03-08 11:00
How are you doing at handling parenting challenges? Answer each of these 20 questions based on how much you agree with the statement. Scoring and evaluations are at the end. The purpose of t… Read More
2021-03-01 11:00
Parenting is not like math or science where black is black and white is white. It is more of an art that shifts and changes with the circumstances, and with the needs of your children. Actua… Read More
2021-02-22 11:00
Whether your child is just becoming a tween or is a full-fledged teen, you most likely have noticed some attitude changes. Your sweet baby may not be so sweet any longer and you may feel on… Read More
2021-02-15 11:00
My kids are no longer playing youth sports. But two of them are coaching it, as well as my husband. Our youngest played her last college volleyball game over 7 years ago, so I’ve had s… Read More
2021-02-08 11:00
Are you are quick to protest, “No Way! I’m in charge!” and insist that you will never negotiate with your child because you are, after all, the parent? Before you dismiss t… Read More
2021-02-01 11:00
Being a parent is complicated. It is hard work. There are no one-size-fits-all answers because every family dynamic is different, every child is unique and every home faces its own special c… Read More
2021-01-25 11:00
Good family communication is more than just talking while someone else listens. Good communication is a skill that every single parent should develop because therein lies the key to family h… Read More
2021-01-15 14:00
A legacy is an enduring impact that you make on those who outlive you. (Dave Ramsey) What comes to your mind when you think about leaving a legacy through your kids? I recently attended the… Read More
2021-01-11 11:00
No matter how many times a week you have family dinner, make it a point to make the most of those moments. One of the ways to do that is to start by banning cell phones, and then to spark go… Read More
2021-01-04 11:00
Is strong parenting a goal for you? The beginning of a new year is a great time to evaluate life–what is working for us? What is not working? What is working for you in your parenting?… Read More
2020-12-28 11:00
Although parents know that their children need boundaries, many of them may be setting limits for the wrong reason. Boundaries are not just there so that parents can have their space or thei… Read More
2020-12-21 11:00
I love giving gifts to my kids, and have to hold myself back at times from going overboard. I love to see the smile, the joy on their faces, even as adults when they open something that I kn… Read More
2020-12-14 11:00
In life, there is really no end to the unknowns. We cannot see into the future, we cannot predict how our kids will turn out and we cannot foresee the problems that lay in wait for us. As ch… Read More
2020-12-07 11:05
Good parenting is praised, admired, emulated, and sought after. But good parenting is not always the best. When we are good at parenting, we tend to settle into status quo, and in doing so… Read More
2020-11-30 11:00
The list of things for parents to be afraid of is very, very long. And the older our kids get, the longer the list gets. Research shows that parents fear: That they are not good enough or do… Read More
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