Why does one's Relationship status have anything to do with someone's self worth? It seems we "American society" place a lot of value on people getting married and having kids, but if someone decides not to do that is that any less valid of a life choice?
   I find when I look to outside things to make me happy, like spending time with someone, the more unhappy I tend to be.  When I look to myself and concentrate on doing things I want to do and have people come if they can make it, I am much happier.
   The reason I have relationship status and self worth as today's topic is because I have been affected by this in the past and I am currently seeing it affect someone I am close to. Years ago I was dating someone that on paper was perfect for me; he was educated, he drove a Honda, he had a great job, and he was a good person. We dated for a few years but it all came down to the fact that we had different basic values so it was impossible for us to be happy together. HOWEVER, we kept trying to make it!
    The weird phenomenon I found as we dated and broke up was that as we were near the end of the relationship, I didn't even really like him boyfriend wise but I felt very powerful and secure in life because I was in a "relationship". I was only able to look at this objectively after we were broken up for like 6 months. We were dating, I was on top of the world, I felt happy...but I didn't really enjoy spending time with my boyfriend. I felt "good" about myself because I was in a relationship and therefore felt validated by society (or something like that).
    Eventually we wised up, it didn't make sense for us to be together...we finally admitted we were better off apart. Thus begins the breakup phase emotionally. I knew I was better off without him, but I felt completely lost. Suddenly I was no longer in a relationship and I felt completely lost. Its like you just get used to people and situations and even if you are unhappy they are comfortable. But I had to just keep reminding myself that just because it is comfortable, doesn't mean it is right.  I had to rely on my believe that I was better off by myself.
To be continued...off to the airport.