I find it interesting how we all really enjoy a good Train wreck, the more gruesome the better. Two very recent train wrecks we have all basked in have been the ruining of the marriages of Tiger Woods and Jesse James.

We have all heard the sordid details of sexual escapades involving these men and some very questionable women. I find it funny how many people commented on how they could not believe what bad taste these guys had as opposed to the cheating in and of it self.

In a recent People Magazine article it discloses not only the fact that Sandra Bullock has indeed filed for a divorce but apparently had already been secretly in the process of adopting a 31/2 month old baby boy. It appears that before the infidelity bomb exploded Sandra wanted to add another child to the family roster already consisting of three of Jesse’s children from a previous relationship.

Train wrecks being what they are, I must ask just what have we learned, if anything, from all this? Men are pigs? Women should take better care of their pigs? Is a little money a dangerous thing when melting a hole in a guy’s pocket? Yes, I am trying to shed a little humor on a potentially heavy subject but I think that we can get something real out of these displays of public laundry washing.

Lets take a close look at our own relationships. How healthy are they? Do not ask “What have you done for me lately?” instead ask “What have I done for you lately?” If you are not happy with the level of intimacy that you have been receiving a quick look in the mirror should be your first option before going on the attack. How intimate have you been? How emotionally available have you made yourself? Have you taken care of yourself and remained as desirable to your mate as you were when you first met? DO you listen? Do you complain incessantly? Sometimes it is us who create the beast that we live with.