I met a very nice, very handsome young man that I had a lot in common with. He was very attentive, laid back, and mature. I liked him very much. We spoke on the phone every day and we had lots of fun together. We hit it off from the start.
After we began planning my move-in, I began to feel more excited. I couldn't figure out why this stage in our Relationship had me so anxious. Although I knew that moving together was going to be a big step, I felt like everything up until that point had been the normal progression of things. It was when I spoke to one of my girlfriends and she teased me that he looked like my "type". Always priding myself on being an equal opportunity dater, I rolled my eyes and asked her what she meant. As she explained, I thought about how he reminded me of a guy I dated years ago. The way he treated me, the way he responded to me...Hell to be honest they look like they could be related. How could I not see it?
What was even worse was that I realized that my Previous Relationship ended before we got to the moving-in stage but that I always wished we could have gone further. Which is why my new relationship seemed to be moving into uncharted territory. I'd done it all before with an older version!
So what does this mean? I think it's far more than having a particular type. It almost seemed as if I was trying to clean up my previous relationship even though that was never my intent. I had genuine feelings for my new guy. They did not ever seem to have anything to do with my past.
So what to do? Continue on with my new old boyfriend? Seriously, does he deserve to know the similarities or is that irrelevant as long as our relationship continues to be good?
