It’s easy to get caught up in wedding planning, and lose sight of what’s really important about the big day: the actual union of Marriage.It is necessary for couples to realize that things change after marriage. It’s a huge commitment and a really big deal-one you shouldn’t take lightly. Here are things that will change as soon as you say ‘I Do’!Marriage is a challenge, for both the partners and it is not easy to start off with everything in one day. Take it slow move step by step, make it happen without putting too much effort. Let the love flow between you both. Life is full of thorns try and make the path beautiful by adding your loving touch to it. Things might just turn around and life might just take bad turns and changes but you as a couple have to be strong.

Marriage is a very powerful weapon and depends totally on you how you change your life with your partner. Make it heaven!!

The Balance of Power Changes

Couples therapists often say that the first year of marriage is a power struggle. Both sides attempt to establish their decision-making rights in certain areas–I’m the one who decides what we do on Saturday night, whether we have premium cable channels, where we go for the holidays, which side of the bed to sleep on (really!). You’re both used to getting your way in your single lives, so coming together under the same roof and the title of “Man and Wife” means reckoning those aspects. You can’t win all of them, and neither can he. Remember that! Balance love, fights and compatibility with your partner. Things can be broken fast, but takes a lot of time to get it back from where it all started. Marriage is just another responsibility that comes with ” I do.”

Finances Change

Even if you lived together while engaged, you were probably able to keep most of your finances separate. After you’re married, though, his credit is your credit–so it’s best to combine your finances so you can keep things in good standing for both of you. Get a joint bank account, change your direct deposits, open a savings account, set up your bills to auto pay and create a monthly budget. It’s never a bad idea to keep a savings account of your own on the side–as long as your joint bills are being paid on time. Meet with a free financial adviser to talk about your long term goals, like buying a house, and a strategy for investing in your retirement policies. Make this a future investment, rather than burden, cut down on useless expenses.

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Your Arguments

When you fought before, the worst thing you could say was that you would leave him, right? It’s not nice, but the truth is that breaking up when you’re just dating is much easier than getting a divorce when you’re married. You can just take your stuff and go–there’s no paperwork, no judge involved. Once you’re legally wed, though, the process is much more elaborate and the truth is that you’ve made a very solemn vow to one another to work it out in good times and bad. Mend every broken heart, apologize for your mistakes, even when you aren’t wrong. Ego can kill relationships, so its better you kill ego and not the love.

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Your Selfishness

The truth is that when you’re married you have to be considerate of the other person’s wants and needs. You can’t be selfish and always look out for #1. You actually may even need to be ‘selfless’ on some occasions–when he’s sick, when he gets fired from his job, when he needs you most. There’s no room for narcissism in a marriage. You must quickly get over yourself and if you don’t, it will happen when you have kids.

Your name/identity

Don’t forget to follow the correct paperwork to actually change your name if you’re choosing to do so. The first step is to change it on your social security card. Once you have a new social security card and the marriage license, you can change it on things like your driver’s license, credit cards, etc.No matter how liberal and broad minded you are, your identity now has a share of his name. You may change your title or you may not but he is a part of you now.

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Your Freedom/Space

You have to agree to the fact that there is so much responsibility on your head and now things have different perspectives. The space your real self at times gets hidden in all this. Your sheer joy of happiness gets locked somewhere. You tend to limit yourself, you can’t be that wild and free like your old days. Marriage is all about change and constant effort, be a lovable couple and help each other find love in extra ordinary spaces.

ShaadiMagic wishes you a happy married life and Have happily ever after.

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By Shagufta Rahaman.

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