By,
Shubham Srivastava.
It always feels great when you go into deep conversation with someone who is as indulged in your thoughts as you are in yours. It often happens that you speak but it rarely happens that you are being listened with the same intensity; but it happened with me with someone and the topic of conversation was "intention". Yeah! you read it right and understood it right too. If you didn't then Intention means an aim or a plan or intend to do something.
When i was an adolescent then it was too easy for me to decide that should i forgive someone who has Hurt me or should i not? Till now, importance of intention has gone through three phases in my life.
First phase was then when i was a teenager. Then i was unable to understand the meaning and importance of intention in one's life and just because of my inability to understand it properly. I never forgave someone who hurt me in my teenage days. It didn't matter then if they Intended to hurt me or not. I was hurt and it only mattered for me.
Second phase was then when i was on the threshold of my 20s and i had understood the meaning of intention. In those days, i started to decide on the basis of intention that whether i should forgive someone on not if i have been hurt by someone. If someone's intention was to hurt me then he/she won't be forgiven and if there was no intention to hurt me but still i was hurt then i used to forgive that person because it was not an intended act to hurt me and it just happened by a mistake.
Third phase is almost similar as first phase. The only difference is that now i am a grown person. I am talking about these days. Tough i understand the meaning of intention but still i have decided that if i have been hurt then i won't forgive the culprit. It doesn't matter that if it was an intended act or an unintended act. You would be wondering that i am talking nonsense; but no i am not because along with meaning and importance, i have understood the impact of intention.
Intention has all to do with one's consciousness. The majority of people in this world go through second phase. If they will be hurt or they will have to decide between good or bad then then they will decide on the basis of intention. If it was an intended act and it is wrong then it is wrong but if it was an unintended act then the culprit should be forgiven because he/she has not done it intentionally. For me, it is totally wrong.
As i said that i have understood the impact of intention and just because of it, life seems so easy. Let's go deep with some examples.
If you are walking in a market and you met with an accident just because of someone's reckless driving. Would you forgive that person because it was unintended? Should he/she not understand that driving fast can cause harm to someone so they should not drive fast? Just because they love fast driving, they can't deny the results. They were fully conscious when they decided to drive and they knew that fast and reckless driving could harm someone but they still chose to drive fast. They thought that it might happen with someone else's driving but it can't happen with me. Here they denied the impact of their unintended but still intended act in full consciousness.
Let's take an another example. If your brother whom you love more than the most has a friend. They both are walking beside the shores of a river and all of sudden, that friend pushed your brother into the river just for making fun but your brother dies because a snake was there in the river and it stung your brother. Now say! does that friend deserve forgiveness? He had no intention to kill your brother and they were very good friends. Can you separate the impact of his unintended act and his mere intention to make fun? No, you can't. You lost your brother and it only matters. Though there was no intention but that friend should have understood that something ominous can happen too. If river will be too deep at the shore or there will be any harmful creature. But he avoided these rare things and he chose the wrong path in his full consciousness.
You often hear sorry from someone very loving to you. That sorry is just because of something absurd they said to you when they were in bad mood or they were suffering from something or they were angry because of certain issues. They say sorry and you forgive them. The most common excuse they made is that they don't intended it to you. It all just happened because they were in bad mood. I would never forgive these kind of persons. For me, my respect is not conditional that in which mood they are or if they intended it or not. They disrespected me, that's it. So should you. Your respect is not conditional. Don't make yourself this weaker that you can't decide that should you protect your dignity or should you continue sharing love with that idiot person because they will make their habit to say something abrupt and then sorry. Don't bind your limits. You deserve more that what you think.
For me, intention only matters to an extent. After that it doesn't. If someone didn't intend it and still did wrong then he/she is guilty of not caring enough. Before doing anything, one should think about all the positive and negative impacts of one's action. If there is 80 positive and 20 bad impacts of an action and 20 happens instead of 80 then that person will be guilty for me. Though his intention was good but he saw only those 80s and avoided those 20s. Like in that case where a bike rider cared for his happiness and trusted his/her driving skills but didn't care if someone will be harmed by fast or reckless driving.
We can never separate these things. For me, consciousness matters more than intention. Because in consciousness, we can choose between right and wrong, we can guess the probability of good and bad outcome of our action then why can't we care enough? Intention is not everything. In your full consciousness, you are responsible for your every single act. It doesn't matter that whether you intend it or not. So never avoid the bad outcome of your intended action. Your one intended good action contains one good outcome and one unintended bad outcome. Like that friend whose act was good intended to make fun but he avoided one unintended bad outcome and he became culprit of not caring enough. Though he was conscious and his intention was right but wrong outcome took place.
So always care enough and never avoid the bad outcome of your good intended act. May god bless you!!! Bbyeee.....
Shubham Srivastava.
It always feels great when you go into deep conversation with someone who is as indulged in your thoughts as you are in yours. It often happens that you speak but it rarely happens that you are being listened with the same intensity; but it happened with me with someone and the topic of conversation was "intention". Yeah! you read it right and understood it right too. If you didn't then Intention means an aim or a plan or intend to do something.
When i was an adolescent then it was too easy for me to decide that should i forgive someone who has Hurt me or should i not? Till now, importance of intention has gone through three phases in my life.
First phase was then when i was a teenager. Then i was unable to understand the meaning and importance of intention in one's life and just because of my inability to understand it properly. I never forgave someone who hurt me in my teenage days. It didn't matter then if they Intended to hurt me or not. I was hurt and it only mattered for me.
Second phase was then when i was on the threshold of my 20s and i had understood the meaning of intention. In those days, i started to decide on the basis of intention that whether i should forgive someone on not if i have been hurt by someone. If someone's intention was to hurt me then he/she won't be forgiven and if there was no intention to hurt me but still i was hurt then i used to forgive that person because it was not an intended act to hurt me and it just happened by a mistake.
Third phase is almost similar as first phase. The only difference is that now i am a grown person. I am talking about these days. Tough i understand the meaning of intention but still i have decided that if i have been hurt then i won't forgive the culprit. It doesn't matter that if it was an intended act or an unintended act. You would be wondering that i am talking nonsense; but no i am not because along with meaning and importance, i have understood the impact of intention.
Intention has all to do with one's consciousness. The majority of people in this world go through second phase. If they will be hurt or they will have to decide between good or bad then then they will decide on the basis of intention. If it was an intended act and it is wrong then it is wrong but if it was an unintended act then the culprit should be forgiven because he/she has not done it intentionally. For me, it is totally wrong.
As i said that i have understood the impact of intention and just because of it, life seems so easy. Let's go deep with some examples.
If you are walking in a market and you met with an accident just because of someone's reckless driving. Would you forgive that person because it was unintended? Should he/she not understand that driving fast can cause harm to someone so they should not drive fast? Just because they love fast driving, they can't deny the results. They were fully conscious when they decided to drive and they knew that fast and reckless driving could harm someone but they still chose to drive fast. They thought that it might happen with someone else's driving but it can't happen with me. Here they denied the impact of their unintended but still intended act in full consciousness.
Let's take an another example. If your brother whom you love more than the most has a friend. They both are walking beside the shores of a river and all of sudden, that friend pushed your brother into the river just for making fun but your brother dies because a snake was there in the river and it stung your brother. Now say! does that friend deserve forgiveness? He had no intention to kill your brother and they were very good friends. Can you separate the impact of his unintended act and his mere intention to make fun? No, you can't. You lost your brother and it only matters. Though there was no intention but that friend should have understood that something ominous can happen too. If river will be too deep at the shore or there will be any harmful creature. But he avoided these rare things and he chose the wrong path in his full consciousness.
You often hear sorry from someone very loving to you. That sorry is just because of something absurd they said to you when they were in bad mood or they were suffering from something or they were angry because of certain issues. They say sorry and you forgive them. The most common excuse they made is that they don't intended it to you. It all just happened because they were in bad mood. I would never forgive these kind of persons. For me, my respect is not conditional that in which mood they are or if they intended it or not. They disrespected me, that's it. So should you. Your respect is not conditional. Don't make yourself this weaker that you can't decide that should you protect your dignity or should you continue sharing love with that idiot person because they will make their habit to say something abrupt and then sorry. Don't bind your limits. You deserve more that what you think.
For me, intention only matters to an extent. After that it doesn't. If someone didn't intend it and still did wrong then he/she is guilty of not caring enough. Before doing anything, one should think about all the positive and negative impacts of one's action. If there is 80 positive and 20 bad impacts of an action and 20 happens instead of 80 then that person will be guilty for me. Though his intention was good but he saw only those 80s and avoided those 20s. Like in that case where a bike rider cared for his happiness and trusted his/her driving skills but didn't care if someone will be harmed by fast or reckless driving.
We can never separate these things. For me, consciousness matters more than intention. Because in consciousness, we can choose between right and wrong, we can guess the probability of good and bad outcome of our action then why can't we care enough? Intention is not everything. In your full consciousness, you are responsible for your every single act. It doesn't matter that whether you intend it or not. So never avoid the bad outcome of your intended action. Your one intended good action contains one good outcome and one unintended bad outcome. Like that friend whose act was good intended to make fun but he avoided one unintended bad outcome and he became culprit of not caring enough. Though he was conscious and his intention was right but wrong outcome took place.
So always care enough and never avoid the bad outcome of your good intended act. May god bless you!!! Bbyeee.....
