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A talk with four teenagers reveals an amazing level of emotional maturity and confidence

This conversation with four girls in the age bracket 16-17 left me zapped at the emotional maturity and confidence levels of Young Girls from a privileged background today. A freewheeling discussion on expectations from life and relationships reveals an understanding far beyond their years. They expect to work for the kind of life they wish to lead, and have very simple expectations, if any, from the men in their lives – loyalty and nicety. Without a trace of cynicism, these girls admit that their only expectations are from themselves.

The talk happened with four girls, though I am presenting them as one for greater clarity (they all consulted each other and agreed on what was said). I am sharing the conversation because I believe it is an eye-opener. We think our children are immature and cannot make their own choices. Whereas I do not say these four represent all young girls today, but still they do represent the educated, upwardly mobile, cosmopolitan teenage girl. Read on…

On love and sex
“What do emotions have to do with sex? Sex is just sex, a need you satisfy like any other itch. Please don’t confuse the two. Sex lost its emotional value sadly. Sex and emotional intimacy are two different things. You can have sex with anyone, but save intimacy for just a few. I may have sex with someone I do not fall in love with, and on the other hand, I could even be deeply and emotionally involved with someone I never wish to have sex with! I may just like to talk with him, share my feelings, consult him, but not be attracted to him physically at all.When you love someone and commit to the person, it is another matter. When you commit, it has to be total.”

On expectations from the future
“A life of financial comfort and social acceptability (friends and dating) comes above my aspirations of marriage and having children. I’m not saying that I wouldn’t have children. However, I do see children as a hindrance to my professional life.”

Do you see a husband as a hindrance too?
“Haha, no, not at all. I would like to find a dependable spouse relatively early on. I would be happy with just someone loyal, who is there for me when I need to talk. Just a nice person, because nicety is really where a lot of other characteristics stem from. I would never settle for someone as a compromise. Remaining single is no big deal.”

Do you expect your partner to contribute towards a good life for you?
“I will build the life I wish to on my own and be responsible for it. It is my responsibility to become what I want to be. I can’t blame anyone else for how I am.”

What if you had to support the man in your life?
“I would be more than okay with supporting him financially as long as he is doing something I am able to respect. However, if I thought he was just lazy and wasn’t using his potential, I could not get myself to respect him and then the relationship would not survive. I believe everyone has a moral obligation to the society.”

You are all so grown up and so mature!
Yes, true. We grow up much too early (chuckles). But really, it’s sad. I regret growing up too early. It’s just too much stress too early on in life. I feel like my brain has been slowly just disintegrating from stress, but really, life is just supposed to be beginning for me, right?

Right, young girls! Life is just getting ready for you, but I do believe you are more than ready for it. So, stride ahead with your wonderful confidence, and win life over.



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