Yes, ladies and gentlemen, Hungary is at it again. After the necessary amount of signatures was collected to warrant parliament debating the issue (a miracle in and of itself, as we all know how much of a shit Hungarian politicians in power actually give), the debate duly went ahead – at 10pm. Which seems more in line with the usual disdain the ruling party has for any aspect of humanity actually. Only seven politicians attended, most from the opposition, and the debate played out in its usual way. After dismissing the opposition (two women), János Varga of Fidesz had this to say, “if women would stop looking for fulfillment and emanciapition and go back to giving birth to 2-3, or better yet, 4-5 Children, there would be no more domestic violence because we could finally go back to family values.” 
I should stop there, and let the statement stand on its own, but it doesn’t stop there. I’ve never dated a Hungarian, or rather, any relationship I’ve ever had with a Hungarian male never really progressed to the couple stage, or to carnal knowledge. So all I can go on is observation. And these observations are exactly what put me off dating a Hungarian, ever. Yes, not all people are alike, there are good ones out there.  But when all you see are the negative examples, it makes you think a certain way. I’m not saying this is a good thing, just saying how it works for me. The truth is, chauvinist thought has been a staple of Hungarian coupledom since the country was created. I thought it was just my father’s friends at first. With their remarks and attitude of children but girls especially should be seen, not heard. But even people in my age group displayed that attitude. At a time when the country was just shedding its communist history and everyone was intent on a new beginning. I thought it was just the crowd that some of my acquaintances ran with, the athletes mainly, where girls got the men their food, cooked for them, provided sex on demand (usually because they were the younger mistress and their apartment depended on meeting their boyfriend’s (sugar daddies) sexual demands. A woman was eye candy, end of. If she had a car she’d acquired with her own money, he’d force her to sell it so he could buy her a new one because “what would everyone think of otherwise.” That what would the others think attitude is basically what runs the entire society. And good conservative christians, as we all know, are very concerned with what everyone thinks of them. In fact, if they had to choose between pleasing God and pleasing the society they live in (but only their own, not anything foreign, even if – as is the case with Hungarians – you live abroad, the opinion of your host country doesn’t count). But back to the subject at hand. 
The sad truth is, bearing a man 4-5 children won’t solve a thing if he doesn’t love you first. A good friend of mine from high school is married with seven kids, and that marriage is based on love. The Christian values they live by are really guidelines, and there’s a lot of respect. I know every Hungarian reading this will accuse me of selling my country down the river, of being a traitor to the fatherland, and of nit putting the needs of the country and the party before mine, as one royalist will openly state (royaliss in Hungary worship the crown that was given to them by God, and are worse than  axis or conservatives. Compared to them, Republicans in America are downright liberal. Then again, some of the more prominent members of the GOP woild fit that bill very nicely). I know people in Hungary who’ve borne a man more than the three kids the government demands, and those relationships were some of the most abusive ones I’ve ever seen. There is a correlation. Each time the couples broke up and got back together, they decided to have another child. To keep the guy there,  because he’d always dreamed of a bigger family with the wife running the household without any help because a) getting help would be shameful as it sends a clear message that the wife can’t carry her load, and what would people think, and b) a woman is naturally programmed to do these things. Therefore they should come easily to her. A woman must also cater to the whims of the man, any man, and in the case of her husband, she definitely needs to abide by his word, and sense every wish he may have before it’s even formulated in his mind. If he yells, it’s her fault for not having things ready. If he’s dissatisfied, it’s her fault for not keeping him happy. And the children she will have to bear him, are  or a desire but an expectation. I’m not taking away from a woman’s desire to have children. But in Hungary more often than not, unless you have children you’re not considered to be a valid member of society. A woman’s worth is measured by the worth she brings to a man, and with the ruling party bleating it from the rooftops, a good woman is one who spreads her legs, bears him all the children he wants, and provides him with all his needs. Be they sexual or not. But Muslims, according to them, are the bad guys, the ones who treat women without respect. 
Don’t get me wrong, women and children are mistreated everywhere, but it takes a special kind of depravity to point fingers at someone else, accusing them of the very same crime you’re perpetuating on a regular basis, while claiming you’re as pure and innocent as the driven snow. Pot meet kettle. And while you’re at it. Being such a great Christian, you might want to look up the part about casting stones. Especially what Jesus had to say about that. But you’d just twist it to meet your needs.