You shouldn’t give up just because you have witnessed too many failures or have seen others fail too many times in the same industry or niche you intend to pursue.

Failure is not a sign of personal incompetence. It’s just one experiment that has gone wrong. I keep moving. That’s what matters.

The most important thing for me is that I don’t allow my failed projects to get the better of me. And it feels just as horrible for me as it does for anyone else.

I get down on myself, feel guilty, try to avoid thinking about it, would rather hide it from everyone else. Failing at things can really suck. And yet, I get back up and try again. When I try over and over again, once in awhile I succeed.

Don’t let your failed projects and work consume you. Get back up and try again. Your mistakes should be your motivation, not your excuses. And no matter how many mistakes you make, or how slow you progress, you are still way ahead of everyone who isn’t trying. Listed below is how to deal with failure.

                   Accept what happened

The first thing you should do after you have failed is to accept it and come to terms with it. Don’t ignore, deny or hide it. You have failed and there’s nothing you can do to reverse it now.

It’s important to accept an accurate level of responsibility for your failure. Taking on too much responsibility may cause you to unnecessarily blame yourself. On the other hand, blaming other people or unfortunate circumstances on your failure will prevent you from learning from it.

When you think about your failure, look for explanations, not excuses. Identify the reasons you failed and acknowledge what you can do differently next time.

Accept it and know that it’s okay. Failure happens all the time. It’s no big deal if you accept it and decide to do something about it. That’s how you start learning how to overcome failure.

              Face Your Fears of Failure

If you’ve spent most of your life avoiding failure, it can feel really scary when it finally happens. Facing your fears, however, can be the key to reducing the discomfort.

Practice stepping outside of your comfort zone. Do things that might get you rejected or try new things where you could fail. Over time, you’ll learn that failure isn’t as bad as you might imagine.

     Remember this: every attempt is about learning.

When you fail, that’s actually really good information. Before you failed, you thought that something would work (a prediction), but then real-world information came in that told you it didn’t work. That means you now know something you didn’t know before. That’s excellent. Now you can adjust your plan, figure something new out, try a new method. Keep learning.

“If you don’t have room to fail, you don’t have room to grow. — Jonathan Mildenhall

     Acknowledge Irrational Beliefs About Failure

You may have developed some irrational beliefs about failure at some point in your life. Perhaps you think failure means you’re bad or that you’ll never succeed. Or maybe you think no one will like you if you fail.

Those types of beliefs are inaccurate. And they can prevent you from doing things where you might fail.

             Research Famous Failures

From Thomas Edison to Walt Disney, there’s no shortage of famous failures. Spend some time researching famous people who have failed. You’ll likely find that they failed many times along the way.

Many successful people continue to fail regularly. Actors get rejected for roles, athletes get cut from the team, and business owners get turned down for deals.

Study what they did to bounce back from failure. You might learn skills that can help you in your own life.

          Remind yourself why it’s important

It’s easy to give up on something, because not doing it is always easier. But giving up means you’re losing something important, like helping someone, and so if my reasons for doing something aren’t just selfish (pleasure, vanity), then I will renew my vigor for the struggle. This alone is often enough to get me going again, especially if I’m doing it to help someone important.

I realize that I’m far from perfect, and that the guilty secrets I hide inside myself are no different than anyone else’s. You guys are just like me, in the inside, and while we all share the commonality of failing to live up to our better nature, we also share the bond of being able to start again. Your goal should be progress, not perfection.

            Change your beliefs about failure

There is no super human. In reality it’s proven that those who achieve greatly have failed greatly before. Mistakes can happen and they do happen.

The success story of great achievers is replete with glamour that it sometimes failed to tell of their failure. So, be balanced try to be interested in the challenges that failure surmounts, and then you will have the balanced view of their success story.

        Develop Realistic Thoughts About Failure

A 2010 study published in Appetite found that people were more likely to sabotage themselves when they were convinced a mistake made them a total failure.

In one experiment, dieters who were fed pizza were told they’d completely blown their diets. Those who thought they were complete failures immediately ate 50 percent more cookies than individuals who weren’t dieting.

When you find yourself thinking that you’re a hopeless cause or that there’s no use in trying again, reframe your thoughts. Remind yourself of more realistic thoughts about failure such as:

I can handle failure.

I can learn from my failures.

Failure is a sign that I’m challenging myself to do something difficult.

You may need to repeat a phrase or affirmation to yourself to ward off negative thoughts or to reinforce to yourself that you can bounce back.

                Focus on trying again

Persistence is the source of success for the majority of successful people. Overnight successes are rare; they are usually people who have been trying and failing and trying again and again many times over. So, don’t give up too.

“Do not quit. Many people quit and it’s painful that most times they don’t realize who close they are to achieving their goals”

True success is measured not by how many successful attempts we have made but by the depth of failures we have had to overcome to attain our intended objectives.

          Learn to become emotionally stronger

Failing could be emotionally devastating. It takes time to recover from a huge failure and for emotions to heal. This time is better spent going over how to do it better next time in order to build up your resilience.

Failure is accompanied by a variety of emotions; embarrassment, anxiety, anger, sadness, and shame to name a few. Those feelings are uncomfortable and many people will do anything they can to escape feeling emotional discomfort.

A 2017 study published in the Journal of Behavioral Decision Making says you shouldn’t try to sluff off feeling bad after failure. Researchers discovered that thinking about your emotions—rather than the failure itself—is most helpful.

Allowing yourself to feel bad is motivating. It can help you work harder to find better solutions so that you’ll improve next time.

So go ahead embrace your emotions. Acknowledge how you’re feeling and let yourself feel bad for a bit. Label your emotions and allow yourself to experience them.

Also develop emotional strength to withstand failure. Those who can tolerate failure are the ones who eventually try once again and are the ones who become successful.

           Create a Plan for Moving Forward

Replaying your failure in your mind over and over again won’t do you any good. Don’t allow yourself to ruminate on all the things that went wrong. Dwelling on your problems or rehashing your mistakes will keep you stuck.

Instead, think about what you’ll do differently next time. Create a plan that will help you put the information you gained from failing into practice.

                      Give yourself a break

If I’m struggling, sometimes my mind or body Just needs a break from the discipline. So I’ll take a day or two off, or a week, or even more. There’s no set time that’s right for every situation, so I’ve been learning to go by feel.

For some things, I’ve taken a few weeks off from trying to learn something. If you are consistently failing at getting stuff done, find a new way to get it done. Change the process, routine or the approach.

There is always a better way to get something done. You may not be able to take a long break from work, but the point is, give yourself a break and get back to it with a new mindset.

So start again. Growth begins at the end of your comfort zone.
You will stumble, you may fail, but you are not your failure!

A Word From  From Feadexx
Sometimes, failure becomes debilitating. If you’re struggling to function after you’ve failed at something, consider seeking professional help.

Whether you’ve experienced a failed marriage or you’ve failed in business, talking to a mental health professional can assist you in bouncing back.