Are You Sexually Attracted on Your Kids? An Invincible Truth of Human Relations.
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I know that you have already put me as a psychopath at the time you started reading the heading. But, you and me as humans, have no such capacity to understand and explain the entire complex range of human relationships. Yes. Human relations are a complex psychological phenomenon.
To better understand this science, we will take your family. You Love your parents and parents love you. You and your brothers or sisters love each other. You love your cosines. You love your teachers. You love your doctor and you love beggars on the street and that’s why you give them money and food. So, how you can explain all these relations? It’s an attractive feeling and you call it love isn’t it?
Again, love is a complex explanatory feeling and Love is the most powerful emotion a human being can experience. love can explain as an expression of affection towards someone else and also expresses pleasure.
As I understand, and also to make it a little more complicated, the word “love” also expresses a human virtue that is based on sex, affection and compassion. When carefully looking in to this, I realized that all such attractive human relations comprises all above three feelings in different levels. Whatever the prominent feeling will set frame of the relationship as sexual relations, love and sympathy.
However, the ancient Greek used 7 words to define the different states of love:
Storge: Natural affection, the love you share with your family.
Philia: The love that you have for friends.
Eros: Sexual and erotic desire kind of love (positive or negative)
Agape: This is the unconditional love, or divine love
Ludus: This is playful love, like childish love or flirting.
Pragma: Long standing love. The love in a married couple.
Philautia: The love of the self (negative or positive)
But every sense of love, I argue that sex is the invisible power which makes lovemore and more stronger.
When human starts sensing feelings of love and sex? every human feels their first sexual arousal with their mother. Don’t get anger and this a phycologically proven fact. This phenomenon has Cleary defined by many scholars with infant sexuality.
According to Laplanche, the mother's breast sends a number of messages to the baby and that it might wonder what the breast is saying to it. The mother’s breast can explain as a sexual organ as well as a feed point. When the baby is being fed, the mother is being sexually stimulated.
This may be useful in creating a bond between the infant and the mother, but it may also create a charged triangle when the father enters the fight. The mother may respond to the father as if he is now a competitor for her affections with her baby, and he may also detect the competition.
Further, the infant sees parts of the mother, including breast, eyes and lips and may imbue them with particular significance. This causes infant to sense and may they grab their own body parts. It is common for a young boy to tug at his penis, perhaps sensing some pleasure from this. The mother, seeing this may be feel some sense of arousal. The father also may be aroused, perhaps by jealous, perhaps by repressed homosexuality. With girls, also, there can be a dynamic of naked arousal and repressed emotions.
These Laplanche's theory of primary seduction was highly condemned by Jeffrey Masson. He saw Freud's work as annotating over the terrible truths of incest and abuse that are at least felt and may even be performed in a patriarchal society, as well as you also may be pointing your finger at me right now while you are reading my blog.
So, with all above augments, my explanation on this is that we all are subject to the law of nature. Every animal’s first feeling towards his kind is the sex and then the affectionand then the compassion. The mix of these three, love forms which we are talking now. Animals does not have a much mental power or a in deep sense of controlling these feelings and that’s why you see some animals do sex with their parents and other family members. So, you compare this statement to your loving dog when he’s on his copulation.
Animal sexual behavior takes many different forms, including within the same species. Common mating or reproductively motivated systems include monogamy, polygyny, polyandry, polygamy and promiscuity. Other sexual behavior may be re-productively motivated (e.g. sex apparently due to duress or coercion and situational sexual behavior) or non-reproductively motivated (e.g. inter-specific sexuality, sexual arousal from objects or places, sex with dead animals, homosexual sexual behavior, bisexual sexual behavior). So, sex has very less barriers in animals pertaining to their relations.
But, when you turn in to human behavior, it’s different from the behavior of animals but, how? Human have a super of controlling emotions and responses with their biologically developed brain functions. Animal behaviors in human gradually controlled with the civilization, different faiths, beliefs and rules and laws.
But, in times, these deeply buried natural behaviors of human stimulates some part of the human behavior and for most of human, but this natural law in control in most of the human.
So, now you ask yourself. Haven’t you ever feel a sexual attraction at your kids? Probably your answer may be yes. What I wanted to say here is that you don’t need to be hesitate if you have ever feel such disgusting feeling because now you know that happens naturally inside you. The only thing is you should know is that take yourself out of the guilty of feeling such terrible sense at your kids. Sometimes you may have not sense that you have an arousal feeling at your children but for sure, that arousal sense inside human play a vital role in strengthening connections between children and their parents. Now you know that what plays in your love at your kids and how that natural arousal has helped you to love your kids more than ever. I believe that this article may help you to understand one side of parental relations which the society is not tend to discuss. I believe that this also may help you to get rid of your stress and ‘bad feeling’ of you, if you have ever felt that you are a bad mother or a father on sensing emotional arousal at your children. Knowing this science, be a good mom and be a good dad. Put away that bad feeling inside you and be the best mom and dad in the world.
