This is the concluding session on How to unveil your Talent. Here, I will talk about the remaining 3 proven ways to unveil your talent. make sure you read the first two proven ways: How To Unveil Your Talent (part 1)

Inner child:

Despite our transition to adulthood, the Inner child is very much alive within us.  People always say do away with childish things and assume your adulthood life, forgetting that Adulthood is not psychologically defined in age, body features and stature but in the ability to understand oneself, associate with oneself and ability to connect with both the inner child and the inner adult. Having the ability to connect with both your inner child and inner adult will lead you to Discover your talent. Most so-called adults are not even aware of their inner being, they are not aware of what they are made-up of.

Without knowing what you are made-up of, you won’t be able to discover your talent. All you will be doing is a trial and error method to discover your talent which will lead you to frustration. You don’t have to dabble in every business before you can discover your talent. You don’t have to practice in every area of specialization before you can discover your talent. You don’t have to do all occupations before you can discover your talent.

Don’t lead yourself to bitterness and award yourself with frustration! Sit down, relax and enjoy your journey of discovering your talent; take your time to understand who you are, what you are made-up off and connect your inner child and adult. Nothing is as beautiful as functioning in your purpose and exhibiting your talent. It gives you the definition of your REAL YOU (originality).

How can I connect my inner child to my inner adult? Think of when you were just a child; try to remember what makes you sad, happy or angry. Think of what you always give excuses for not doing it and what you enjoy doing without hesitation.

Answer the following questions:

• What was your desire as a child?
• What do you crave for the most?
• What were you denied as a child?
• What circumstances do you feel neglected, disparaged, abandoned or rejected as a child?
• What is your desire as an adult?

Our inner-child represent our child-like capacity for innocence, joy, sensitivity, truthfulness, creativity, openness and playfulness but it also holds our accumulated childhood hurts, traumas, fears, disappointments, pain, rejection, loneliness, and anger.  Answering this question sincerely will help you create a balance between your inner child and inner adult. A well-renounced engineer was interviewed; he was asked how he discovered his talent. He said, “when I was just 4 years old, I go around picking up electronic components of spoilt radio, television, etc. That was my toy back then. I don’t know why, but I love keeping anything electronics around me.”

Most times, what you love doing as a child or what you desire most or what you are denied of is a pointer that leads to discovering your talent. Don’t ignore your inner child, commune with it even as an adult.

Struggle:

Without struggle, you won’t know your strength. From where I come from, my people call it hustling. If everything is all smooth, and rosy, most people won’t feel the need to discover their talent. They won’t have anything to struggle for; no dream to fight for, no purpose to fulfill, no goal to achieve.

Life always has a way of teaching us lessons; obtaining experience and correcting our mistakes makes us a better person in life. The basic principle of life is: work for what you deserve or take anything that comes your way. Struggling is our way of getting what we deserve. The more you struggle, the more you realize how far you can go and how close you get to achieving your dream. When life hits you so hard and you feel like you are the worst person on earth, as long as you keep your struggling spirit alive, often times, it leads you to discover your talent.

J.K Rowling story: This woman needs no introduction. Her books have sold more than 400 million copies worldwide. But there was a time in her life when she was diagnosed with clinical depression and contemplated suicide. Her marriage had failed, and she was jobless with a dependent child. She signed up for government aid ( she was so poor, she could not afford to support herself and her daughter), describing her economic status as being “poor as it is possible to be in modern Britain, without being homeless.”

In 1990, while she was on a four-hour-delayed train trip from Manchester to London, the idea for a story of a young boy attending a school of wizardry “came fully formed” into her mind. In 1995, she finished the manuscript of her first book on an old manual typewriter. The book was submitted to twelve publishing houses, all of which rejected the manuscript. Editor Barry Cunningham from Bloomsbury advised her to get a day job since she had little chance of making money from writing children’s books.

Today, she is United Kingdom’s best-selling living author, with an estimated fortune of £560 million, ranking her as the twelfth richest woman in the UK. She is none other than J.K Rowling – the creator of the HARRY POTTER SERIES. Saying that the Harry Potter franchise was and is a success would be an understatement.(source: famous people)

Answer the following questions:

• What area are you struggling with?
• Do you want to give up struggling?
• What is it, which inspires you to keep your struggling spirit alive?
• What challenges are you faced with?
• How can you turn those challenges into opportunities?

Answering the questions above carefully and sincerely will lead you to discover your talent and help you to unveil your talent.

Helping others:

There is a saying “what goes around, comes around”. Helping others is not just about you meeting the needs of others because, in the process of helping others, you meet your needs as well. Helping others gives meaning to your life and existence. When you have the spirit of helping others, you constantly think of people’s problem and how to solve it. In the process to solve people’s problem, your talent will be unveiled. Every great businessman/woman got the idea for their business because they wanted to solve a particular problem and in return, they profit from it as well. You might not have a business idea, that’s fine, helping others will build your capacity, make you relevant and help you to unleash your potentials.

When you help others, people will point out those areas you are good at to you. Most times, you don’t consider those areas as anything meaningful, until they start throwing praises at you and elaborate the importance of that area. Sometimes, even the people you help will just say it unconsciously. They could say “Hey, thanks for teaching me English. You are a good teacher, why not establish a language school” There you go… your talent of teaching has been unveiled as a result of helping others.

I started my career as a counselor to my friends. They always run to me for sound advice and come back to praise me “Ayobami, do you know the techniques you taught me worked” “Ayobami, I got the job, thanks for your advice” “Ayobami, I feel alive again” “Ayobami, I am inspired to start studying again and I won’t give up this time” and so on. Whenever I hear those words, I always feel like the happiest person on earth. Soon enough, they came to me and said “Ayobami, why not put the techniques you taught me into writing so that others could learn from it” “Ayobami, you are very energetic and you know the right words to say to motivate people, why not be a motivational speaker”… Haha, did I just say motivational speaker? I think I know your thought. Yeah, I discovered my purpose as a result of helping others. Always be willing to help others for your own good as it will help you unveil your talent, to fulfill your purpose.

Answer the following questions?

• When people ask me for help, how do I feel when I reject their request?
• In what ways can I help people?
• What problems are people facing?
• What extent can I go, to help people?

Write down your answers to the questions in your private book. Make sure you know the extent you can go in helping others because helping others at your own expense is self-destructive. Why did you say so, Ayobami? I said so because you can’t please everybody. Common, you are not an ice-cream. People can never be satisfied, offer the help you can and move on. You can’t be committed to helping others when your life also needs help; learn to balance it and live a balanced life.

How did you unveil your talent? Please don’t hesitate to share your proven ways with others. Thank you for reading!