Learning how to Walk away from a fight or argument can be difficult for those seeking techniques to manage their anger. Many clients with Anger Management issues find themselves moving from 0 to 10 on the anger scale in seconds and just don’t know how to slow it down. Below are 4 steps in how to walk away from a fight.

Step One- Keep your wood wet

In the real world anger Management is less about avoiding triggers and more about being prepared when triggers come. Anger Management is about living in a state of mind in which you are able to handle the unexpected hurdles of life. We will always come across an event or person that burns us up. The key is to keep your wood wet. Keeping your wood wet means managing your stress levels through self-awareness, eating right, getting enough sleep and knowing when to say no.

Step Two- Avoidance is sometimes necessary

America is the land of confrontation, we are taught to stand up for our rights, don’t take no for an answer and assert ourselves. Everyone of these thoughts help motivate us to be our best but there is also a time to know when to step back, walk around the pitfalls and to know when to fold.

The best way to walk away from a fight is to avoid opportunities to fight all together. We all know our triggers. We know what they are and we know who they are. There is no lost of honor in arranging our lives in a way that keeps us from causing the least amount of carnage to ourselves and others. There will be times when you can not avoid a confrontational discussion with your spouse or business partner. Steps Three through Four will be beneficial in cases like these.

Step Three- Don’t Engage

It takes two to tangle. Step three in how to walk away from a fight is refuse to engage. If your have been one to argue in the past those around you how to pull you in. The next time your nemesis lures you into an argument don’t engage. Simply smile and say I hear you but I’m not in a place in which I can discuss such a sensitive topic right now. Lets talk later. You do not have to attend every argument your are invited to.

Step Four-Have an exit plan

If you find yourself involved in a highly volitive conversation have an exit plan. Have a place you can go to cool off. You can take a walk or go for a drive. Be sure to share your exit plan with you spouse or significant other. Let them know that if things get to heated you would like to reserve the option to to take a time out. Ensure them that you are not going to see and ex or go drinking. Let  them know you would be happy to continue the conversation when cooler minds prevail.

Shannon Munford is and anger management expert and the owner of Daybreak Counseling Service. For more information on call 310-995-1202 or visit www.daybreakservices.com

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