As I turn 25 today, my Papa says it’s high time that I settle down with my Prince Charming. I can see happiness and anxiety brimming in his eyes when he puts forth his concept of the mister who would-be his younger daughter’s. Quite akin to Papa, my Chechi too appears to be equally keyed up to embark the hunt for her would-be brother. Luckily, my Chettan who frequently asks his wife (my Chechi), “nammukku ivale kettichu vidende?” haven’t got much spare time these days to comment on his would-be co-brother. To my utmost surprise, my Mommy –the boldest and fearless woman I’ve ever seen- seems to be bewildered when she learns that my profile will be put up on a matrimonial site very soon. Maybe she knows her Ammu very well and is pretty aware that the latter requires another year to fulfil her long cherished dream. Of course, she read my mind right with her motherly-magical powers and therefore is found to be at crossroads right now. You see... even a courageous mother from a conservative household goes incapable to let her daughter remain unmarried as the girl hits mid-twenties. Mommy however appreciates the fact that there are also times one needs to conform to societal norms however rebellious he/she is. My just born nephew expresses zero amount of emotion in the life altering choice of his aunt. Apparently, the little champ can’t contribute towards it. In short, some way or the other, everybody here is all mentally set to welcome the newest member.
The only mortal being unable to come to terms with the sudden turn of events revolving around my family is simply me. But I ought to accept the whole lot because at the end of the day it is nothing but the joy and happiness of my family concern the most to me. Hence I had been participating regularly in the Holy Mass and actively reciting Rosary for the past nine days with a special intention that I be blessed with Mr. Unique.
Everyone is unique but my Mr. Unique is going to grab your eyeballs for his unique uniqueness. Here is a list of distinctive merits of Meritta a.k.a Ammu’s
Mr. Unique: THE ONE OF A KIND.
Ammu is known as ‘Why-Why-Girl’ among her friends. There is always a curiosity in her eyes. She becomes restless when she fails to get appropriate answers for her never ending questions. Only a Mr. Unique be proficient enough to manage a curious girl like her. And of course, he is going to be the answer for all her questions. To put an end to her questions, his only easy way out is to take this lady for a long drive in that least expensive four wheeler.
It is effortless to make Ammu laugh. She laughs even for those smallest things. But only a Mr. Unique possessing a wry sense of humour does that brilliant job of help make her laugh her lungs out and facilitate to think rationally. Her respect for such a gem is rocket high.
Ammu wishes that Mr. Unique doesn’t put her under his surveillance every now and then. He knows both of them are individuals and privacy of each one needs to be taken into account. On that ground, he will not watch over her like that “Big Brother” and definitely not let her be another Nora (Doll’s House) as well.
The teetotaller, Mr. Unique doesn’t have a preference for night partying and clubbing similar to Ammu. He will be back home after work, get lost in his wife’s rambling talks and keenly take part in the healthy discussions on anything but everything that follow. Mr. Unique and Ammu will thus turn the outside world upside down in their own little kingdom.
To ease himself from the monotonous routine, Mr. Unique resorts to playing outdoor games with his friends or maybe socialize with his friends. He, in addition, does love to go together with his wife to exhibition grounds, trade fairs, literature fests, theatre productions, public libraries and even for window shopping. (even when she says it’s okay for her to go alone).
Occupying himself with smart phones every so often is not Mr. Unique’s leisure activity. He rations out his time to be annoyed with social media in such a way that he finds time for everything. You see... Mr. Unique prioritizes 24 hours of a day for major to minor things accordingly and leads a disciplined and balanced way of life.
The predominant hobby of Mr. Unique is reading anything that comes his way. Mr. Unique and Ammu will be fighting for The Hindu in the early morning. During spare time, they retire themselves into the small library in their home for reading, commenting and critically analysing their reads. They thus learn together; grow up together and even build a new school of thought together. Literally, they live their lives to the fullest.
KFC, McDonalds, Subway etc are neither weekly friends of Mr. Unique nor Ammu. They both befriend that Mylapore Filter Coffee seller or maybe that Chat Centre bhaiya tented at Marina beach. If anyone has seen Mr. Unique going for those branded clothes and accessories every time he shops, you probably walked into some ordinary guy and not into Meritta’s Mr. Unique.
Mr. Unique can’t be that uber cool boy out there. He is not a dodo and very well knows when he ought to be serious and silent. At the same time, he identifies the super nervousness of his wife and patiently makes her feel comfortable whenever required.
Mr. Argumentative is another given name for Mr. Unique. As a duo Mr. Unique and Ammu will fight over both silly and serious stuff. She prefers a peaceful verbal fight than mutually pulling their hair for no valid reason. Their tussle for the ‘survival of the fittest’ tag would be compromised very soon without allowing “the sun go down on their wrath.”
You would find Mr. Unique surrounded by an air of pride nevertheless of his courteous and refined guise. Whenever Ammu is at fault, Mr. Unique will look right into her eyes and draw attention to her wrong-doing and corrects her promptly. Look... Mr. Unique is always himself and doesn’t opt wearing a mask even before his wife. Even though he is a blunt by nature, he owns a compassionate heart. He is a composed man and therefore transforms himself into a diplomat to let realize his partner her flaws without hurting her. Also he is familiar with her imperfections than anyone else and does not make a mountain out of a mole hill. His benevolence knows no bounds and he is solution to all her problems.
Mr. Unique always fall back on Ammu in case he faces any crisis. Ammu knows that he is independent to manage anything on his own. She understands that there will also be times he falls down and loses himself. At such times, he will honestly speak his heart out to his soul mate and shares all his worries with her. And Ammu vows that she will be always available to make stay him motivated. In short, he can always count on his intimate friend (that is, Ammu of course).
Ammu believes that their kids don’t have to run into others for timely advice as their father -Mr. Unique- is there with them as their guiding star. And the kids, more than lending ears to their father love to notice and learn from all his good deeds.
Having seen her working mother struggling to keep her office tasks and home chores in equilibrium, Ammu desires to be a stay at home wife. Of course, she is consistent with the idea that in wedlock a man and woman need to complement each other. But according to her; if Mr. Unique singlehandedly helps generate income for the family, she would be able to concentrate exclusively on household tasks. She least expects him to lay his hands on “feminine responsibilities” as he already does justice to his “masculine responsibilities” very well. As Mr. Unique and Ammu clearly can demarcate a line between necessity and luxury the duo would be having a satisfactory standard of living; even refusing funds from his and her families. You know... Mr. Unique and his wife unanimously say that they like to set out their voyage together by means of the meagre bank balance Mr. Unique earned so far. And the girl has no trouble living such a simple and ordinary life. After all, they get to live a life holding their heads high...Right??
Settling down in a European country and having a colourful life overseas is a dream for everyone. But Mr. Unique will say nay to it and favours living in India irrespective of the luring promises over there in a foreign land. Doesn’t that make him an odd guy and slightly more unique??
The untiring faith in Jesus Christ is the best virtue Ammu is glad about in Mr. Unique. Despite the hardships and challenges Mr. Unique and Ammu face in their journey together, his trust in Good Shepherd will not be vanished. She is totally sure that Mr. Unique will be with her to thank God at both good and bad times of them. Plus, Mr. Unique will say a big ‘yes’ when she requests him to spare half an hour of his busy schedule everyday with her to kneel before Almighty. You see...they say a family that prays together, stays together.
The foremost of all his gunas;
Mr. Unique loves and respects Ammu’s family so as she values his. Meanwhile, he is an intelligent boy to be acquainted with the truth that her family’s and her love for him is strictly conditional. She admires him for his unique uniqueness based on the conditions she and her family have listed out in our minds (it could be physical, personal, academical, professional or the aforesaid criteria). If there is nothing unique, she and her kin would have only closed their eyes to him in the course of their collective hunt for Mr. Unique. While the love of his kith and kin is not based on any sort of conditions and is purely unconditional. They love him even if he lacks anything unique in him. Mr. Unique is a sensible man to be sensitive of this most familial fact.
I would be the blessed and fortunate girl in the universe if I discover Mr. Unique there in the crowd.
May the good God and Savio bless Mr. Unique and me to cruise ahead happily ever after.
