Falling in Love is pretty easy huh? You don't have to consider a thing, most times you have no idea you've actually fallen in love. Yeah, I've been there.

Start crushing, moon a few nights even without wanting to and that ache begins to take shape in your heart. And you only realize later that you've actually fallen.

Easy as pizzy!

But hey, the hard work begins after commitment, whether courtship/dating or marriage.

It's difficult, making a relationship work, it takes much more than extra effort and grit.

Having someone you can share your life with and confide in can be really comforting but most times we rush into relationships before we are even ready. Mostly because we believe or think that someone can make us happy when the real happiness is within us.And a lot of relationships have ended because of this, mine did.

However, if you seriously want to have a fulfilling and comforting relationship with someone, here are some things you must do before jumping right

One of my favorite quotes is "Know Thyself" by Socrates.

DO I need to say more...really?

We often jump to a conclusion about situations we haven't taken time to study, the same way we often jump into relationships without figuring out who we are and what we really want. 

Nobody can do that for us, nobody can do that for you. Find out who you are, take time to explore yourself, figure out your happiness, your strength, your weakness. 

It will take a lot of discipline and courage to learn to accept and love yourself as you are but at the end, you'd be happier.

Yeah, you heard me, go get a job!

Or better still create one for yourself.

Nobody wants a liability, alright?

He might really love you but that doesn't sentence him to a life sentence of catering for all your expenses.

Get a job before you get in a relationship, whatever it is you want to do. Do it before you jump!

If you've got a job that gives you trouble, drop it, get a job that makes you happy.

That way, you are likely to attract someone ambitious.

Now, this is the plan: take yourself out, buy yourself stuffs, love yourself because nobody can do that better than you.

And you can't really love someone when you don't love yourself.

Self-love should be your driving force.

Understand that you deserve to be loved, don't begin to think that you are not good enough, that's bullshit!

Go on and fall in love with yourself and you'll attract better people.

You know, I tell myself everytime I get the urge to strangle someone  that" we are made differently for a purpose, and that life be so boring if we all acted the same way."

You've got to learn that others don't exist to satisfy your expectations, they don't exist to make you happy.

Accept them for who they are, If you can't do that, then how do you expect another to accept with all your baggage.

We've all had things happen to us that we would rather forget. The more you dwell on them, the more they hurt. Let go of the people who are no longer in your life, move on. You can't possibly move forward if you're still thinking about your last failed relationship.

Rather, think about what it has taught you and learn from it.

You see, whatever it is, love yourself, love yourself! Let go of the past, forgive them and forgive yourself, you'd be happier for the good decisions you chose.

So, guys, that's it for now. I had a blog post ready for Saturday but it turned out to be one horrifying day for me, as I nearly lost my mother but she's okay now. 

Expect my testimony soon,

See ya.