As we grow Older, we will definitely experience more things in life. There is a Chinese saying which goes something like this, “Ginger is always spicier when it gets old.” It literally means that people who are older are much more knowledgeable, and that is because they have experienced much there is to life. Sour, sweet, bitter, spicy – those are the flavours of life. One’s life can be considered incomplete when they only experience the sweetness of life, but not the bitter things, and of course vice versa. As we all know, life isn’t just a bed of roses, and even if it is, remember roses have thorns, thorns that can scar you.
Living up to the age of 16, it would be naïve to say that I’ve experienced a lot, but maybe some of it. I have undergone losses of family members, breakups, fails in tests, the feeling of defeated, lost countless of competitions, getting criticised, compared and insulted by others etc. These are the main things that we face at this period of life. It’s kind of unavoidable. During the next stage of life, perhaps around the age of 25, you would experience more, for instance the stress of stepping into society, making decisions that will really determine and shape your future, financial disability and many more. Everyone has their own sour and bitterness to deal with, and once again those are what mould our lives.
There are times when you are just unhappy about your own life, maybe you have lost a competition which you have poured out a lot of effort in, or maybe your best friend just so happens to neglect you in some ways that made you doubt your friendship. When you are sad, just leave the source of unhappiness sideways. Focus on what makes you cheerful. After all, plainly worrying and thinking about those problems helps nothing, so why not move on and look at the bright side. If your best friend really neglects you and finds other friends, why not do the same? Staying in the usual stop would not prove anything to the other party.
It’s always important to distract yourself away from the things that make you sad. It’s easier said than done, but just try your very best to let go. Lingering on your loss would only demotivate yourself. Sometimes it may be an environment that makes you unhappy, let’s say your group of friends. You feel that joining them requires you to put on a mask and that’s inevitably tiring. Why not consider leaving and blend in with another group? Staying there would only make you waste time and effort. Another example would be if you feel that you aren’t liked the same way as you do to the other person, why not seek for a more suitable person who would really appreciate your kindness, your humour, your everything, the whole you? There will definitely be someone who cares for you. (However don’t just leave your friends without any communication beforehand, because you may have misunderstood them)
“Have a break, have a Kit Kat,” we often hear this in advertisements. Not that Kit Kat has sponsored for this blog, but it’s true. When you feel tired or sad, try to eat a chocolate or anything that is sweet. It is in fact proven that sweet things really can cheer someone up. But please be reminded not to consume too much sweet stuff because I don’t want my readers to suffer from diabetes. Like I’ve said many times in the past, carry out things that you enjoy, as long as those things can keep you from thinking negatively.
I hope for the best to everyone reading this, and may happiness surround all of you always. J
